Twins birthday party

Poppie68

Same here my 'little girls' will be 21 in 2 weeks...we always made sure they had a gift each to give when they were invited to parties, but there were numerous times at their parties that one was handed the card and the other the one present.

Spendless

My sister has twins and she really wouldn't have minded if classmates had given joint presents. She has a small-ish house so would see the point about 60 small gifts. It's a different scenario to family members buying for them. I've always bought my neice and nephew individual presents.

hazyjo

Got twin nieces who couldn't be more different if they tried. One's a total tomboy, the other's a real girlie-girl.

My nieces wouldn't want to play a game together, but, if the two are close, I wouldn't see anything wrong in say a board game for two players. Would have been a total waste in our family, but some twins are inseparable and are happy playing together, as are siblings generally. I'd try and find out a bit more about them.

Agree though, a present each would be the done thing

Jx

monaebrook

pmlindyloo wrote: »

As a mum of twins (now grown up) please give each child a gift and a separate birthday card They are individuals and should be treated as such. They will probably be opening them at the same time so won't take any longer!

Can you imagine sharing your birthday with someone and sharing presents? Don't know how old the girls are but birthdays are special and sharing is hard when you are young. In fact, the only time I like sharing as an adult is when it's a meal for two or a theatre visit.

What is it about twins that people see them as a pair all the time? My particular hate was the 'how are the twins?' as if they didn't even have their own names! and as for twin cards - they should be banned!!!!!!!!!!!!

I am also a mum of twins and make it a point NEVER to refer to them as such. They are individuals and I too DETEST twin cards - totally strips them of their personalities!!

I would give a gift each, it does not need to be expensive, and please don't buy two of the same but in different colours!

penguingirl

I'm a twin and didn't like receiving joint presents with my brother- you wouldn't share presents with any other siblings so twins are no different. The only exception was at Christmas when sometimes we got 'family' presents but my older brother was also included in them (things like family board games, climbing frame to share). We also always got (and actually still do in our late 20s!) separate birthday cakes.

I actually don't mind being 'the twins', my brothers often used to get 'the boys' so maybe it didn't seem so weird for me.

MrsRogers

Separate gifts should be given each way

cte1111

I'd see if it's possible to check with the parents (or ask your child to ask their friend). My daughter was asked to a twins birthday party, I was going to buy 2 small gifts but she checked with her friend and he said they would like one gift only for the child that invited them. The twins in this case are in separate classes at school so people bought for the twin that was in their child's class, which made it a bit simpler.

My daughter's also quite good at knowing roughly what her friends will like for presents, e.g. whether they'd prefer an art set, lego or a barbie. My son however never seems to have much of a clue so I try and get something fairly neutral - everyone seems to like Moshi Monsters for example.

He was invited to a triple birthday party in the summer (3 non-related children sharing a party). I bought them each a slinkie and some popping candy, it came within my usual budget for 1 present and my son was happy giving it (he loves slinkies although they don't last long before getting tangled). I also did 3 separate cards.

Janepig

monaebrook wrote: »

I am also a mum of twins and make it a point NEVER to refer to them as such. They are individuals and I too DETEST twin cards - totally strips them of their personalities!!

I would give a gift each, it does not need to be expensive, and please don't buy two of the same but in different colours!

I can't see why you would get upset about them being referred to as the twins. If someone was to ask "how are the twins?" then it may be that whoever is asking can't bring their names to mind or it's just quicker. No different to someone asking "how are the kids?". There are worse things to get het up about. But I couldn't envisage any reason why someone would send a twin card!

Jx

Threebabes

I would buy 2 presents and spend about £5 each. Have a look on the amazon thread for bargains. Toys r us i got a windowmill maker for £5, and amazon had card craft sets for £5, spotted on MSE.

Im a twin, we sometimes got the same 2 person board game each errmmm.... ;-)

Shelldean

Will be interesting to see how this pans out in just over a week.

My twins are 18 today:eek::eek: and their big sis is 21 :eek::eek: in just over a week.

They have decided to host a joint party.
They have joint invites, but each invited their own friends, but some are friends of two or more of the hosts.
The invites didn't say which host the invite came from, so to those who are friends with two or all three them might assume the invite comes from all??

like I said will be interesting to see how gifts/cards stack up on the night.