Twins birthday party

Mojisola

Toto wrote: »

I don't want to send her to therapy in later life though... my mum made me give away all of my gifts!!!

I think there's a difference between giving away gifts that were bought for her and having a collection box for gifts bought for a charity.

I'd still make sure that she was happy with the idea.

Janepig

pmlindyloo wrote: »

As a mum of twins (now grown up) please give each child a gift and a separate birthday card They are individuals and should be treated as such. They will probably be opening them at the same time so won't take any longer!

Can you imagine sharing your birthday with someone and sharing presents? Don't know how old the girls are but birthdays are special and sharing is hard when you are young. In fact, the only time I like sharing as an adult is when it's a meal for two or a theatre visit.

What is it about twins that people see them as a pair all the time? My particular hate was the 'how are the twins?' as if they didn't even have their own names! and as for twin cards - they should be banned!!!!!!!!!!!!

Just out of interest, when your twins go to a party, do they give a card and present each to the birthday boy and girl or one between them?

I always ensure that when my two have gone to twins' parties that I've sent separate cards and presents, but when twins have come to their parties it's one card and one present with both names on.

Jx

Janepig

bluenoseam wrote: »

I'd also perhaps give the kids in her class more credit - the chances are they know she's not exactly the pink sparkly stuff kind of girl, but yeah the superhero party is a pretty good idea.

DD has a girl in her class who has always been into football and "boyish" stuff, never girlie things. Luckily DD gave me the heads up before her party so she had some Ben 10 stuff from us. Other parents weren't so well informed!

Jx

Person_one

Janepig wrote: »

Just out of interest, when your twins go to a party, do they give a card and present each to the birthday boy and girl or one between them?

I always ensure that when my two have gone to twins' parties that I've sent separate cards and presents, but when twins have come to their parties it's one card and one present with both names on.

Jx

Well, the present comes from the family, doesn't it?

If you invited two siblings who weren't twins you wouldn't expect them to bring a present each, would you?

I'm actually astonished that there are people who think its ok to give twins one present between them, you learn something on here every day!

KiKi

Person_one wrote: »

Well, the present comes from the family, doesn't it?

If you invited two siblings who weren't twins you wouldn't expect them to bring a present each, would you?

I'm actually astonished that there are people who think its ok to give twins one present between them, you learn something on here every day!

I disagree - if they're school friends then the present is usually from the child, not the child's family. (I do think it's different if a present is from a family, though.)

Twins are individuals (as you rightly say!), so should get one present each. But - they are individuals. So should buy one present each if they're both invited and are giving gifts.

Janepig

Person_one wrote: »

Well, the present comes from the family, doesn't it?

If you invited two siblings who weren't twins you wouldn't expect them to bring a present each, would you?

I'm actually astonished that there are people who think its ok to give twins one present between them, you learn something on here every day!

Who has said it's okay to give one present between them? The OP made a valid point about the sheer volume of presents the birthday girls/boys will be taking home and maybe their mother would be happier not to have 60-odd parcels cluttering up the house.

I also disagree that the present is from the family - when it's a "school" party the present is from DD or DS and the card is signed from them alone, not from the whole family. Generally speaking. I agree with KiKi - it's no good considering twins as individuals when it's time for them to have presents, but then suddenly it's okay to lump them together when it's time to give back!

Jx

Toto

Person_one wrote: »

Well, the present comes from the family, doesn't it?

If you invited two siblings who weren't twins you wouldn't expect them to bring a present each, would you?

I'm actually astonished that there are people who think its ok to give twins one present between them, you learn something on here every day!

As I said in the OP I was in the process of buying a gift each when it suddenly struck me that this mum would have 60+ gifts to deal with, which made me wonder what other people did. It was nothing at all to do with thinking that twins don't deserve a gift each.

As for twins giving. Well, I suppose they should equally give a gift each too, not least because giving feels quite nice and they should both experience it.

fluffnutter

Two presents for the twins. They're not the same person. Perhaps mum invited so many people so that she doesn't need to bother with any presents herself . Seriously though, I should imagine they got used to their house being full of pink plastic tat years ago.

Better_Days

I have a friend with twins and I asked her about joint presents. She said that she didn't mind if I bought just one present, 'they will have to learn to share' was her view. I do usually buy them something separate (one is a boy and one a girl) but have occasionally purchased a joint present.

Have also done the same for my nephews who are 4 and 5 and both boys.

Can't see any harm in a joint present if it is something they will both like and they wouldn't have had individually.

Shelldean

I'm a twin mum ( 18 on tues eeekkkk:eek:)

I always preferred them to get their own gifts because as others have said they aren't one person, but two separate people.

And where they have both been invited to a party then they take a gift each.

The gift unwrapping doesn't take too much longer, but I used to need eyes in the back of my head to note who got what from whom, as I liked them to write thank you notes.