sister being distant, possible taking advantage of me

EPL

£48 for 36 miles ? who on earth suggested that.

A tenners worth of fuel would cover that.

Sagz_2

Stop the money - if she can afford to run a car she can afford the petrol to visit once a month.

Maybe suggest to meet somewhere half way between the 2 of you and see if she makes the effort..... and if she doesn't then move on and create a life for yourself with friends that value you.

You don't need people in your life who cause you stress and hurt x

Raksha

Bigmoney2 wrote: »

Could you go to see her instead?

I agree with other posts, you need to make a life for yourself. Join some groups and find some friends.

Oops just reread your post



Why shouldn't you do what she wants when you visit.

To be blunt, you sound a bit needy and self centred.

That's a bit harsh, we don't know the OP or what other issues they are dealing with.

[Deleted User]

you can chose your friends and not your family,seems to fit this problem well
i havent seen or spoke to my brother for 5 years now,and i dont lose a minutes sleep over that

rowland37

I know sometimes we crave the love and support of 'family' but at what price to our own self esteem? Join some social groups like yoga, art classes or a walking group. Being with others will help your recovery, your confidence and sense of wellbeing. Perhaps you could ask your cpn if there is a day centre or local mind drop in nearby. A CTO will not be renewed just because you haven't had visits from or been to see your sister. A CTO will only be renewed if you still meet the criteria for section. Don't waste your money, you could do loads of things with £50 a month. BTW I gave up on my family a long time ago - I have a brother I haven't seen for 16 years, he is my only surviving family member.

superkp

stop the payments then she will probably leave a skidmark on the tarmac from her home to where you are living wanting to know why you stopped paying her!

cattie

Be honest with your cpn & explain that your sister hasn't been bothering to come to see you or contact you & explain how you really feel about this. Your cpn is there to support you & if you're withholding important info from him/her, it will mean they will get a false impression on how things are in your life.

If they don't already know about the £48 you've been paying to your sister, then confess this too. We all know friends & relatives might need a bit of financial help from time to time to keep in touch or come to visit, but your sister is definitely taking advantage of you & of your vulnerability.

Do concentrate on friendships, as when you're in need, it's likely to be your friends who will be there for you rather than your sister. Perhaps just call your sister now & again, just to maintain contact, but don't do it on a regular basis, such as once a week. You never know, once you've reduced your contact with her & stopped the £48 month gift, she might find that she misses you after all & will make an effort to contact you more.

jennie-jack

it does sound like she is taking the mick out of you. 48 quid for nothing. if she was good family she wouldnt need paying to visit. id use the money to meet others. like someone else said if you stop the payment she would soon be in touch asking why. lets fce i for three months you have ben buying her shoes and shopping.

Parva

portly1 wrote: »

I have a sister and she is my only surviving family member. The last time I spoke to her and had a decent conversation was over 40 years ago.

Speaks volumes about you doesn't it Andy.

I haven't seen or heard from her since - she has a psychiatric problem and seems to blame me for everything bad that has happened in her life.

Like you are totally 'normal', consistently creating new accounts with the sole aim to upset somebody....

I don't need the agro so why bother with someone who doesn't want to bother with you.

Seems you are quite happy to court disdain..