Baby won't eat! 22 September 2013 at 4:19PM in MoneySaving mums 36 replies 2.9K views

olgadapolga

applecrumble24 wrote: »

The same health visitor also told me absolutely all 2.5 yrs old should be potty trained and that in order to get my son (2yrs 7mths) to use the potty I should just put him in pants and make him clean up any accidents himself as he was being stubborn and manipulating me?!
I'm getting a new health visitor now so hopefully this one won't be quite so hardcore!

This is truly appalling advice. Words completely fail me. My two sons weren't even started with toilet training until they were both about three and a half but waiting that long certainly had its benefits as they were both done and dusted within a couple of weeks. I was totally shocked at how easy it was and just couldn't believe it.

You really have to follow this up. Her advice is old-fashioned and outrageous and could cause problems for the child and mother relationship. Do not let her get away with it, if she's telling you this sort of stuff what on earth is she saying to other, more vulnerable parents? She's the sort who probably says that a newborn should be left to cry as they are being "manipulative". She needs to be stopped. Has she written any of her "advice" in your children's red books?

applecrumble24

olgadapolga wrote: »

You really have to follow this up. Her advice is old-fashioned and outrageous and could cause problems for the child and mother relationship. Do not let her get away with it, if she's telling you this sort of stuff what on earth is she saying to other, more vulnerable parents? She's the sort who probably says that a newborn should be left to cry as they are being "manipulative". She needs to be stopped. Has she written any of her "advice" in your children's red books?

I will, don't worry! she hasn't written anything down but a few of my friends have also had problems with her so I'm encouraging them to put complaints in.
It's such a shame as, when delivered correctly the health visitor service can be invaluable it just seems a rotton few that force their outdated opions as fact without a second thought of the damage they are doing

Mrs_pbradley936

applecrumble24 wrote: »

I will, don't worry! she hasn't written anything down but a few of my friends have also had problems with her so I'm encouraging them to put complaints in.
It's such a shame as, when delivered correctly the health visitor service can be invaluable it just seems a rotton few that force their outdated opions as fact without a second thought of the damage they are doing

She sounds dreadful!

Toddlers used to get clean far quicker when everyone had Terry nappies which had to be soaked in Napisan and then boiled. This was because they felt wet/dirty and hated the sensation. These days with the disposable nappies they do not feel uncomfortable.

meritaten

when I was having babies back in the late seventies early eighties - we didn't call it 'Baby Led Weaning' - we called it 'common sense'. first you started baby with a little taste of say mashed potatoes and gravy off your plate. once they indicated interest in your food then you gave them 'tastes'! then you dished up some for them - and added 'finger foods', rusk or toast or apple slices (tho for some reason DD liked peas! eaten one by one with her fingers!!!) for some reason later on babies were supposed to eat 'certain foods' on a strict schedule! luckily, my kids were inclined to the common sense approach and never tried to force weaning!

as for baby eating only sweet stuff - don't worry about it! lots of savoury foods actually taste 'sweet' and just keep trying different things!

There is so much 'fussing' about weaning these days - humans have existed for thousands of years and babies got weaned during those times - I doubt very much that in stone age times food got pureed for them!

meritaten

Aimless wrote: »

Round here it's all BLW, health visitor produced a lovely stack of pics of babies tucking into takeaways I was slightly shocked at the thought of all that salt!

I had another not too fussed one. BLW wasn't really for us, he'd have some purees but would not touch the stage 2 or 3 shop ones. Still won't touch those shop shelf toddler meals. He'd have a go at finger foods but gagged easily. Anyway, he was probably a year when something finally clicked and he started eating what I class as a significant amount. Oh, and at 20 months or so still loves a breastfeed or 3!

I think I heard the advice is generally to wait till they're one and see if there's still an issue.

er - isn't that exactly what baby led weaning is? or do I misunderstand the term? is it an euphemism for 'you must buy Brand X 6 - 9 months first, then their next stage?
baby led weaning surely means that your baby decides what and when to eat - and if they want to skip the mush stage and try out their new nashers on a nice steak - that's up to them!

SmlSave

Baby led weaning means no spoon feeding meritaten when mentioned here. Although what you said

baby led weaning surely means that your baby decides what and when to eat - and if they want to skip the mush stage and try out their new nashers on a nice steak - that's up to them!

is basically it

Have a search on Gill Rapley or a look here - http://www.babyledweaning.com/. No aeroplane noises, no putting foods in their mouths etc. You just give them a selection of what you're eating and let them play/eat as they like. It can get messy!