What do you deem 'love' to be?

System

Love is kissing the back of his neck and being overwhelmed by the manly scent of the man you want to spend the rest of your life with.

daisiegg

Wow this thread is soppy!

nickyhutch

I love my husband. I know this because I married him even though I wasn't particularly interested in getting married, just because I knew it meant a huge amount to him.

He's not my "type" and isn't as intelligent as me, but he gets me, understands me, and worships the ground I walk on. I don't know why I love him, but I really, really do.

DigForVictory

What do I deem love to be?

My husband spent years courting me, studying me, learning things even I hadn't figured out about me & still loves me. So I'd say it was the triumph of emotion over horse sense.

Then again, when I finally woke up & smelled the coffee, I realised that hidden behind my bunch of prejudices was a really solid, honest, loyal friend. Who wasn't of my 'class' but with whom I felt happy.

Sometimes we want to part the other's hair with a frying pan, but then we contemplate a life without the other one. And a life on a charabanc of gloomy strangers, endlessly travelling through cold fog looks like a fortnight in Benidorm.

maintenanceman

I don't think love csan be defined for any individual person. It's an emotion that cannot be defined, but it affects your decison against all other rational opinions. It makes yo do things that you wouldn't normally do. Sometimes it keeps yo awake at night. You may turn your back on your family. Soetimes it'd the only thing in the world tha consumes you and you would do anything for it. It has a power over you that you cannot describe. It give you relief and security, a partner by your side.
The touch of her soft skin. The parting of her long brunette hair from her cheek. Her soft lips beckoning yo and drawing you into extacy.

It's a bit like a pint of cold stella on a warm day.

Seanymph

Isn't it about what you do rather than what someone else makes you feel? (adored? fearful of them leaving?).

My OH knows me - I mean he gets me - the mean things, how I don't even like people some days, how I could eat half the menu in a chinese on a Friday, how sometimes I'm lazy, and take a day doing not a lot but watching Judge Judy - and then how I feel guilty....

And he says that the best thing about me is that I love him how he is - I have never tried to change him, I don't criticize how he does things.

We both ask things of each other, don't get me wrong - we work together.

But we both know the true, honest, heart of each other - good and bad - and despite that we spend our time together, offer support, turn the tv off to listen to each other, plan our future together - even on the days when we would rather be on our own.

Don't get me wrong - we drive each other up the wall I'm sure (well I can only speak for me........) He has left a loft hatch off for a week which makes our bedroom freezing - and I am not physically capable of putting it back - and I'm cross with him. But I've asked him, he said he'd put it back Sunday, so I'm waiting - and I've put a blanket under the door so the wind doesn't get into the bedroom. Because life is too short to have a drama about it.

Surely it's accepting, unquestioningly that your other half is doing their best.

74jax

And lot of what you all say is how I feel about my best friend, I love her to bits, we click finish sentences, laugh at silly things, can spend a day doing nothing but it's fab. Not sure I can describe the 'love' with hubby, other than we have s@x too.

busiscoming2

To me it's just having 'that' connection. I can't describe it. Sometimes I really dislike him but still really love him. We just 'fit' each other and I like to think complement each other although we are pretty much polar opposites!

It's just what feels good for you and imagining life completely without them is just saddening.

FBaby

It's about letting go of my guards and actually sharing emotions, thoughts, my body, my soul, my life with someone who I trust as much as I trust myself with it all.

It took time for my husband and I to build that trust and let go of our self protection. I think I knew I loved my husband completely when after a serie of dreadful arguments, to the point where we even brought up the word 'separation', we both decided to fight for our relationship rather than let it go. I needed to know that my husband was strong and could face adversity rather than walk away even when there is no clear light at the end of the tunnel.

sillygoose

1 Corinthians 4

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Love never fails.