Etiquette on re-selling goods

Gigglepig

I think your OH is right. if I had given you the items I would be unimpressed to see you trying to sell on for profit - it is trying to profit from someone else's kindness.

Personally I would sell items that I myself bought but donate items kindly donated to me by kind friends. Why not show the same kindness that your friend showed to you, to someone else? For example a facebook friend or freecycle...

aileth

I'd say it's a bit risky. I think you have paid for them and therefore they are yours, but she might view it differently. There's obviously a bit of doubt over how she might feel as you've asked the question, so I think play it safe and give them to charity or pass them on for free on a parents group on Facebook or something and be as generous to someone else as she was to you!

fake_smile

I predict that this would p!ss your friend off. I know I would be a little put out. It's one thing passing them onto a charity shop but to sell what was given to you for free...that's a bit out of order.

Although, you could talk to this friend and get her opinion, she might tell you to go for it, at least you would have asked her first.

Kaz2904

I'm amazed so many people would be cheesed off about this! I would have no issue seeing something I'd given you being sold on Facebook. It keeps stuff out of landfill and stops items languishing in a charity shop for ever more.

Mazzarati2000

I'd speak to them and explain that your child has now outgrown them, and ask if they would like then back. That way they have the opportunity to say yes. You're also showing respect/ appreciation for the gift, by acknowledging that they are in your opinion too good for landfill, even after your use. As she didn't ask for money for them it's not quite as cut and dry as a sale in my eyes. Although you gave her money, her intentions wre to gift them to you. Had you not had a use for them, she may think she would have sold them for more iyswim. This way, she has the opportunity to have them back, but she may even suggest you sell them on, in which case your problem will be solved without any secrecy/ uncomfortable feelings!
I have a Profile that I set up purely for selling things that we had 2 of when we moved in together. I have never knowingly sold a gift, so the purpose isn't quite the same, but I did it as the things we have for sale are from when we first set up houses and aren't necessarily of the quality that we have in our house today, I'm not ashamed of them, but would rather keep sales and networks separate if that makes sense. If you wish to sell via FBay, maybe you could do the same?

Top_Girl

I've given away so much to so many different people, I wouldn't recognise much on FB groups to be honest.

Also, if I'd wanted money for it myself, I'd have sold it.

I wouldn't mind at all.

double_mummy

recently i helped my friend out with my old buggy bouncer clothes sterilizer etc pretty much everything she needed out of my cupboards (my OH loved it lol) she then went on to lose the baby and the next day listed everything for sale on facebook i was livid!!!I had helped her out and then she just sold everything if she had asked me I would have asked for the things back and given them to another friend the whole reason i didnt sell them was that i got so much help with my son when he was born i thought after my daughter (no more coming!) i would pass it forwards and help someone else

she ended up making a good couple of hundred pounds and kept it all for herself

we are no longer friends

glitter03

Or you could still advertise them on the fb selling page and block the friend from seeing that post

skylight

Or set up a facebook selling account "Foolofbeans Selling Stuff" etc, therefore she wont be able to see you at all.

foolofbeans

Some good responses, thank you.

Although the friend gave the clothes to me I did actually pay for them. She is very efficient and would not have kept the clothes anyway - she likes to clear out as she goes along and has previously binned clothes just to get them out of the house.
I have also bought bundles of clothes for her child. Partly knowing they will come to my child later on but I wouldn't worry if they don't. I was offered payment for them but I refused it.

I think the bet thing to do is speak to the friend and ask what she thinks.
I would be happy to donate the clothes to somebody I knew but there isn't anybody I can think of and I have asked around but to no avail. And they may be third hand but some have never been worn as there was just so many. Plus the ones I bought - I confess I went a bit overboard! I may just sell them for little money and take the friend out on the proceeds. A great idea suggested by a PP - thank you :T