Etiquette on re-selling goods

foolofbeans

I have loads of baby items I'm looking to get rid of. I was going to sell them on Facebook selling pages but then I realised that some of the items are clothes/toys that FB friends have given me or I've bought and they will see my listings.
One friend gave me a huge amount of clothing for my baby which was 9 months worth of almost everything they needed. She said she didn't want anything for them but I did slip £30 into her bag which she later thanked me for. A bargain as far as I was concerned as there were so many clothes my LO didn't get to wear half of them!
I have given a young family member lots of clothes but she then told me she didn't need any as she had too much already. So I have loads to get rid of and wondered what the etiquette should be.
OH says I should give them to charity but we could really do with a bit of money back. If I do sell them should I give the friend extra money on top of what I initially paid? I have added to the items with new outfits so it's hard to know what was initially bought from the friend. But then she also gave me lots of toys and activities which I never gave any money for and which are still immaculate and worth some money.
What should I do?

twigpig

I'd pass on anything that was given to you to someone else, or to a charity shop. It's best not to take a chance to upset the person who gave you them to think you're selling them on to make some cash, even if you no longer have use for them.

You could of course speak to the person who gave you them, offering to return them or ask if they'd mind if you sold them seeing as you have no use of them. Maybe offer to take them out for dinner with what you make..... just a thought

Person_one

The clothes are yours now, you can do what you want with them. For the sake of diplomacy you might want to sell them on Gumtree or Ebay rather than facebook though, bit more discreet.

Personally though, unless you are desperate for the cash, I'd say 'pay it forward'. You've benefitted from your friend's generosity, why not let somebody else benefit too? After all the clothes are 3rd hand now.

Counting_Pennies_2

They are yours to do as you wish.

Personally I would say sell the good quality ones that will be worth your while listing individually, and give the not so good ones to charity.

I wouldn't sell on the Facebook pages though, instead move to Ebay where your friends would not easily trace you and see their items being sold

amus

I would first ask your friend if she wants the clothes back to sell on or give away again, or just ring her and say you are planning on selling the items, and offer her a fair portion of the profits?

Kayalana99

I think it would be nice to run it by her that your thinking of selling it on - so that shes not looking at pictures on facebook and thinking omg that was mine lol...

Personally MIL brought me alot of clothes when DS was little so I will probally give her some of the money I make when it comes to selling them off (although tbh I don't think newborn-6months sell for alot)

Or yes as above, sell on ebay?

trinity_enigma

I've never had this with baby clothes but with other things I've been given and want to get rid of I always mention to the friend that I don't need it anymore and ask them if they want it back or is ok if I get rid of it. I think theres only been one occasion that they've wanted it back. I think its just best to be up front about it as although its technically yours I always think its best to be polite. You never know she might be planning on trying again and might get some use out of them?

justme111

Selling to friends does not feel right. Either giving them away to friends or sell to strangers.

Hermia

If the person had used the item and it was no longer suitable for them (e.g. clothes and a growing child) I would not have any problem with them selling it. If they were selling an item I'd just given them I think it would be nicer if they did it somewhere I couldn't see it!

tea_lover

It feels a bit cheeky imo. I'd find someone else that needs them and pass them on again, or give them to charity. At the very least, run it past your friend before you sell them (wherever you sell them).

If it was the other way round (you'd given your friend things that she was now selling) what would you think? She may well be fine with it but I do think it's only fair to mention it first.

s23xy_c

You could always put the ones to Cash 4 Clothes that don't sell on Ebay or Gumtree, that way you are still getting some money for them