Found a franchise I like the sound of, what do you think?

rainbowfairydust

MoominMama wrote: »

No commute, I live in a different county than she does.

It's highly unlikely I'm going to go for it after taking into consideration the points raised in this thread.

Op - what would happen if the lady selling the franschise also sold to someone else in your town? That person may ( not that I'm saying your wont be good at it) have a better business head then you?

I personally wouldn't go for it OP..

Eta - must read the thread first before posting !! Good luck with whatever you choose to do op.

lincroft1710

MoominMama wrote: »

No, I personally refuse to use the term boyfriend, it sounds girly and silly.

Not sure how saying 'partner' made BurnleyBob come to the conclusion I was imaging how crap life is a single parent and was adding pathos to get you all riled.

Don't agree that it is either girly or silly, but it's your choice and you're not happy with boyfriend then I agree you should use another word. From personal experience, people have definite views on the term "partner", some even think you're gay if you use the term.

By using the term partner BurnleyBob thought you were living with someone.

MoominMama

BurnleyBob shouldn't jump to conclusions about people's lifestyles that he knows nothing about then.

I was with my husband for 18 years when he died, no, I'm not comfortable with using the word 'boyfriend' or 'girlfriend', I'm way past that, it makes me sound like a teenager when I actually feel ancient.

I use the word 'partner' because if the Government didn't dehumanise me and force me to live alone, then he would be, I will not lessen the strength of my relationship, just because I'm not allowed to live with someone, by reducing him to a mere boyfriend when to me he is more than that.

Most importantly, what the hell has this got to do with me asking about a franchise? What business is it of BurnleyBob's or anyones?

MoominMama

lincroft1710 wrote: »

Don't agree that it is either girly or silly, but it's your choice and you're not happy with boyfriend then I agree you should use another word. From personal experience, people have definite views on the term "partner", some even think you're gay if you use the term.

By using the term partner BurnleyBob thought you were living with someone.

I also refuse to use horrible words like 'fella' or 'hun' it doesn't make me wrong or right, I'm not asking anyone to agree with my choice of terminology, that is just a rule I use for myself, I refuse to be held responsible for how other people interpret my words and I don't care what views other people have about certain words and I don't take them into account when I use the words I choose to.

Do I come across as stupid? Do I strike you as someone who would repeatedly mention I am a lone parent then be so thick as to suddenly forget and mention the fact I live with someone???

No, I wouldn't. I only speak the truth, I'm not interested in silly mind games.

Wish I'd never come on here now, if I wasn't feeling like crap before I am now.

SGina

OP don't be riled by posters who go off on a tangent & want to beat you with a stick to make themselves feel better.
I also think using the term girlfriend or boyfriend as an adult is silly but that's not what you came here to discuss.
You come across as a very intelligent person who is trying to do the best for herself and family.
Honey10's post seems hopeful. Don't give up on doing something creative or something you enjoy just because the opportunity hasn't arisen yet. Hope you find something soon and the best of luck OP.

BurnleyBob

MoominMama wrote: »

What??? I say 'partner' because at my age 'boyfriend' sounds ridiculous! He lives an hour away and I see him twice a week.
Honestly, I love it when people form their own conclusions about the life of someone they don't know anything about.

And pathos??? Really? I have only stated facts, if you think that's pathos well, maybe you can be widowed with young kids to support and then you can have lots of 'pathos' in your life too.

Faux pas.... please, I AM a lone parent because my children's other parent is DEAD and I live alone!!!!

Anymore questions????

Sorry to tell you 'Bob' but you can stop feeling so smug and pleased with yourself because you've got the whole thing wrong.

I haven't imagined anything, are you a single mother? Do you know what it's like first hand?

I came here looking for genuine advice regarding a genuine situation and I get some bloke on the internet who suddenly thinks he's Columbo working out my psychology and personal life. What a joke.

This site's forums is packed with advice. Try the Up Your Income section if you want to learn of how to earn money by answering the phone for a chat line service or wielding an iron to press other people's clothes. Gauging by some of your replies, I'm sure they will be unsuitable because in spite of being an overly confident person, you simply don't fancy or have an irrational fear of talking to strangers and have a phobia about touching garments that are owned by those outside your immediate family.

By clicking on the Work and Benefits area, you'll discover in less than 10 minutes that it's a very bad idea to inform a DWP snooper that a long distance boyfriend is a partner because they will presume, quite naturally, that you're shacked-up together.

On that same theme, whining that the government is preventing you from setting up home with him would receive short shrift and rightly so because it's nonsense.

lincroft1710

MoominMama wrote: »

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Do I come across as stupid? Do I strike you as someone who would repeatedly mention I am a lone parent then be so thick as to suddenly forget and mention the fact I live with someone???

I have never suggested nor do I think you are stupid and your relationship status is no concern of mine nor have I commented upon it. I merely said that the word "partner" implies a state of cohabitation and as this is the general accepted usage of the term, using the word where there is no cohabitation can cause confusion.

BJV

Op there are some good recommendations on MSE.

Some of the posts come across as being a little personal but you have to take it with a pinch of salt.

Most of the posts where trying to be impartial. You have done the right thing as if you had not posted your question you may have jumped in feet first into a scheme which sounds ??? well not the best is a mild way of saying it. Pyramid scheme is another.

Ignore the posts that take it too far. Yes you can acknowledge their point of view, hey we all have one but don't let it upset you.

Just carry on looking the fact that you want to do something is much more than many so jut carry on. There will be something out there you just have to find it.

Kayalana99

Have you thought about doing an at home course? That would solve your childcare issues with that anyway.

Tbh I know this is abit 'out their' but have you considered moving? Doesn't sound like their are any jobs around you and if your partner lives an hour away perhaps it might even be worth considering moving closer rather then living together if their are more opptunities in that area?

Tiddlywinks

MoominMama wrote: »

There was a school cleaner job advertised at the local high school but the hours were 3-5:30, I suppose I just have to let my 8 yr old wander the streets until I've finished if I went for that?

Or you could ask to do what my mum did 40 years ago... take your son with you and sit him down at a desk with his homework and a drink and biscuit.

MoominMama wrote: »

If I was allowed to actually live like a normal adult human being then he would be my partner, but the Government says I must be treated like a silly schoolgirl and not live with anyone and be interviewed under oath as to my intentions towards anyone I have a romantic relationship with.

Good grief - you are being just a bit melodramatic there aren't you?

The Government is not stopping you from living with your partner... that is your choice.

The benefits will, as always, be calculated according to the household income.

MoominMama wrote: »

I use the word 'partner' because if the Government didn't dehumanise me and force me to live alone, then he would be, I will not lessen the strength of my relationship, just because I'm not allowed to live with someone, by reducing him to a mere boyfriend when to me he is more than that.

The Government has not dehumanised you nor forced you to live alone... you are doing all of that yourself through personal choice.

Stop putting barriers in the way of moving forward with your life... childcare, living remotely, cliques giving jobs before advertising them, big bad 'Government'.

it's time that you realised that the only one that can change your life for the better is you and if you really are feeling this down and 'got at' then perhaps you need to seek the support of your GP.