Closed Facebook group for my mum friends

paul2louise

burnoutbabe wrote: »

even though its secret, your friends (or the Group admin) can still (or ask you to) invite others to join - then you send them a FB invite.

Well that's what I wanted. I don't mind friends of friends because even tho I am the owner I want it to be free for all members to post stuff and use I just don't want a group where lots of people join. Otherwise I would just post stuff straight to my main wall.

Thanks guys.

bigmomma051204

Also, surprised nobody has yet mentioned this and hate to make things sound so cynical BUT anyone can make up a profile to look like a local mum - it could be ANYONE who just wants to find local women with children, where they are meeting, what time and can then use that info for all kinds of things. I know it sounds far fetched but you really cant be too careful. Especially when there are predators out there who want to know things like that - and could also then strike up friendships with people within the group and become someone "trusted" to share personal info with :cool:

Soleil_lune

bigmomma051204 wrote: »

Also, surprised nobody has yet mentioned this and hate to make things sound so cynical BUT anyone can make up a profile to look like a local mum - it could be ANYONE who just wants to find local women with children, where they are meeting, what time and can then use that info for all kinds of things. I know it sounds far fetched but you really cant be too careful. Especially when there are predators out there who want to know things like that - and could also then strike up friendships with people within the group and become someone "trusted" to share personal info with :cool:

OMG I was thinking EXACTLY the same thing. :eek:

bigmomma051204

Glad its not just my warped mind :cool:

Tenyearstogo

bigmomma051204 wrote: »

Also, surprised nobody has yet mentioned this and hate to make things sound so cynical BUT anyone can make up a profile to look like a local mum - it could be ANYONE who just wants to find local women with children, where they are meeting, what time and can then use that info for all kinds of things. I know it sounds far fetched but you really cant be too careful. Especially when there are predators out there who want to know things like that - and could also then strike up friendships with people within the group and become someone "trusted" to share personal info with :cool:

Predators could just turn up at a school, nursery or park. It's easy to over estimate the danger.

I would've thought a bigger danger would be posting about a meet up and then people going around to your empty house.

bigmomma051204

Tenyearstogo wrote: »

Predators could just turn up at a school, nursery or park. It's easy to over estimate the danger.

I would've thought a bigger danger would be posting about a meet up and then people going around to your empty house.

That too!

I was just pointing out that really there is a possibility that these people aren't who and what they say ther are :cool:

And yes, predators can just turn up anywhere but its more the getting the "backstory" on families..... ie finding that one of the mums is single.. befriending her online for a period of time, building confidence etc... then knowing where to find her... etc the list goes on in someone was in it for the "Long game"....

paul2louise

Well I do consider anything children related should be taken with care as there are a lot of dangerous people around. When I needed to make new mum friends after my DS was born I went along to local sure start centre and they were really supportive. I made a lot of genuine friends who have been a great support especially in those early days with bf and sleepless nights. There are plenty of toddler and baby groups in our village that are very welcoming to new mums as well as us older ones.

I have had some very interesting replies and glad I asked the question, thank you

Mojisola

paul2louise wrote: »

Well I do consider anything children related should be taken with care as there are a lot of dangerous people around.

There really aren't - there are a few dangerous people around and it's wise to take necessary precautions but not to think that most strangers are bad.

red_devil

Ive got a nice fb group, we have been nominated for an award, if anyone wants to join pm me.