Closed Facebook group for my mum friends

paul2louise

Just want a unbiased opinion. I created a local mums group on Facebook so I could add my friends who are mums of young preschool children so that we could put up ideas of places to meet, kids events etc.

I purposely kept the group closed so that only close friends or people that I know can view and join the group.
In the description it says
"A group where friends can arrange meet ups and places to go"

I keep getting request to join by I presume local mums who are searching for groups but none of them are even mutual friends of people I know.

So my question. should I accept them, am I being mean by not accepting them. I put most of the ideas on the page so I don't think they are gaining anything when I post "lets go to the park on Tuesday". Or similar types of things

Thanks. I just think stuff related to children should be private and I am careful who reads and sees what we do.

Funky_Bold_Ribena

It's your group, if it is for close friends then why would you add strangers?

paul2louise

Thanks, having just read your reply I have gone into the settings and made it secret from closed. Thank you

rosie_78

Hi,
Not too sure how facebook groups work, but if it's a closed group - how are people finding it?

It may be better to create it again with an obscure name so that no one will find it by accident? You can then add who you like? x

paul2louise

I think because I called it "my village" mums group, so you can search for groups with the village in the tiltle. When the page comes up it is blank and says closed but they obviously still ask to join. Changing the name is also a good idea too. Need to think of something appropriate. Mind you if I have now made it secret then no one else can find it. I don't mind my friends wanting to add some new friends just these random people who want to get ideas without any contribution or want to sell stuff.

swingaloo

Maybe there are mums new to the area or lonely who think its set up as a way to meet people and make new friends.

Blackpool_Saver

Secret is the only one you cannot see unless you are in it

paul2louise

Yes and I am aware of that which is why I don't want to be mean, but I just wanted to find an easier way of sharing kiddy stuff with my friends and not clogging up the main pages

netmums that has a find a friend bit.

There is another open group set up by another girl I know that is open and free for all. But they haven't tried to join that one.

paul2louise

Blackpool_Saver wrote: »

Secret is the only one you cannot see unless you are in it

That is what I have changed it too. I feel a bit harsh, I just don't want everyone knowing my business.

meritaten

I hate effbook - divorced it a while back.
Its YOUR group - and as a group you should be able to agree on admitting new members or not.
think of it as a 'club' - you need to agree with the others the 'rules' on whether to invite people in. and quite frankly I wouldn't invite 'strangers' - they could easily be people who just want to know your movements with your kids.
if you just want to keep it to existing members - that's fine. just refuse all requests and DONT feel guilty!

burnoutbabe

even though its secret, your friends (or the Group admin) can still (or ask you to) invite others to join - then you send them a FB invite.