Did I do right?

farmerboy

Just wondering what some of you would have done in this circumstance?

Last night a friend on facebook posted at 3.30am that she'd taken aload of pills and drunk a bottle of vodka, was sick of this life and hoped the otherside was better. I was 70miles away at the time.

I messaged her my number to call me (we have only spoken on FB occasionally), she never called, so after 20 mins I called the police with what information I knew (didn't know exactly where she lived, but did know where her sister lived).

An hour later, she called me and had a go at ringing the police, that they had woken her up and that an ex had hacked her account and posted it. I explained that I was worried, and had been a member of another forum where this had happened twice (once a call for help made in time and once not), also I had had experience of this myself in the past, though not going all the way or posting it on FB.

20mins after her call the police rang to update me, saying she was fine and had denied posting it at first, then admitted doing it, they had warned her about it.

She's now deleted her facebook account.

Just wondered what others would do?

Also seems funny that the police knew where to go without waking the sister?

double_mummy

i would have done the same thing

jackyann

No question that you did the right thing. I would now "unfriend" her both on FB and in real life. If you have to see her because of mutual friends / family, be polite, but don't get dragged in to her problems. Also I would not talk about this with anyone in her circle. Tell them the facts if you need to, but again, don't get dragged into a re-hash.

FBaby

No doubt you did the right thing, good on you. She is clearly not a stable woman and I personally wouldn't want to be friend with someone who not only would go on doing such a stupid thing, but to then get cross for having been disturbed. I would be grateful to have her out of my life for good.

marisco_2

You definitely did the right thing. If any of my friends wrote on facebook or any other social media that they had done themselves harm, I would have done just as you did. This woman clearly needs help considering she phoned you and had a go at you, denying that she had done this and passing the blame. Clearly totally unaware that the police informed you that she had admitted to it.

The fact the police knew where to go without talking to her sister, suggests she has done things like this before. I wouldn't get yourself dragged into this woman's issues, she needs professional help. However for my own piece of mind I couldn't walk away from a friend in this situation, without first trying to talk some sense into them and suggesting where they could receive support and advice.

andygb

Well done farmerboy, you did exactly the right thing.
Unfortunately, the FB "friend" is nothing more than an attention seeking, narcissistic idiot, who wasted your time and that of the emergency services.
Having been through this myself, I would suggest that you cut all ties with this person, because there is every chance they will do the same thing again.

peachyprice

Of course you did right.

If she was tucked up in bed as she said she was she needs to learn that attention seeking antics like that will lead to being woken up by the police.


Now run a mile and don't get embroiled in this person's life.

thorsoak

You did the right thing - it was an attention-seeking drama llama that posted it - but it might not have been.

Friends and I had experience of the same sort of thing some years ago - it ended up with one person from London, another from Essex, another from Lincoln, another from Oxfordshire and some-one else from Argyll all conferring, deciding that we needed to do something - and it was a real problem - and she survived - along with her animals that we got out for her!

newcook

its quite possible that she has blocked you rather than deleting her account - if she deletes it then how else is she going to get the attention she obviously craves?!?!!

Im with the other posters - you definately did the right thing!

19lottie82

its things like this which make me feel glad that I no longer have a FB account!

And it sounds like you are better without this attention seeker.

Mojisola

19lottie82 wrote: »

its things like this which make me feel glad that I no longer have a FB account!

It's not really a FB problem - before the internet, people did the same thing using the phone and, before that, using letters (that was when there were several deliveries a day).

Before that, people had to do with upsetting people close enough to talk to.