Has he/you ever forgotten your anniversary?

lostinrates

Vicky123 wrote: »

Well yes, but isn't it nice to be thought enough of to get a card/gift, being married doesn't guarantee any special treatment anyways, least not in my marriage it didn't. My ex had the only woman on the planet who had no birthdays, xmas, mothers day or anniversary's!

The just because ones are the nicest, IMO. I dislike gifts for the sake of it rather than because the right thing was found.

lostinrates

Torry_Quine wrote: »

So you don't regularly send cards for birthdays either. Now that really would annoy me if friends didn't send me a card. Just today I've made and written out two for the end of the month. For the record though I do get things 'just because' as well.



Me too.



That's because it's up to us women! :rotfl: :rotfl:

No, I send very few birthday cards, I have a specific 'excuse', so people no its me, but also no I want nothing back, ever, from any one. ( I prefer NOT to receive birthday gifts or cards but am gracious when they are given) And they also know that I will be the first to be generous when they feel non specifically down, or in the run up to things. I celebrate the big things I cannot forget and I randomly celebrate bleak days in late winter when people feel blue. I never arrive at a home empty handed and if no one was there for my last rolo I put it away til the next person visits. . ( if I remember its there....I don't actually eat rolos, if I did we'd probably have mould rolos in various hides holes around the house). For example, a friend of mine who has never received a birthday card from me has had significant ( financial ) help in the last eighteen months. I'm not mean, I just don't do dates. I'm not always sure when MY birthday is or how old I am :rotfl:

I do however have a reminder for parents and immediate in laws.....( DH sends in laws ones but I have to remind him) my in laws aren't birthday people either though

Eit..but if I were to do birthday cards it would add up to ( thinking international postage and a fairly basic card for' family and closer friends......well, a percentage of the ' Christmas' card list....our Christmas card list ( which I also quit doing last year, ) the year before it cost some hundreds of pounds. Honestly....I don.t be
I've its money well spent on my love for people.

System

Not being married ever, i've always "celebrated" the date that i've started going out with bf's. With one ex, we went to pizza hut every year, another we went to Frankie and Benny's. Got to a year anniversary* with current bf (we met and started dating the same day-may 4th) and i didn't think he was bothered (pretty sure he said "it's not like we're married), so never said anything, then he told me he was bothered. That said..i don't think i'm going to mention it from this point on, i get weird after the first year. All my other relationships have somewhat gone to pot after the first year, and each year we celebrated after that was more of a stark reminder the relationship was probably going to end.

So i don't want to tempt fate so to speak with my bf (i think subconciously i'm worried of he realises hes been with me even longer he'll leave O

*to be fair the term anniversary isn't exclusive to marriage-for example it could be the anniversary of when someone died, to me "anniversary" is something that is the same day every year and is remembered and or celebrated each year

Turtle

Me and OH never marked the anniversary of us getting together, though I used to always point it out (for 17 years). Now we're married I'm sure we'll do something for our wedding anniversary, I've booked us a week in the lakes for our 1st

kboss2010

Neither myself not my bf of over 3 years can remember what date we met or what date our first date was. I don't really like anniversaries/Valentines etc but then I'm not much of a wedding fan either. I'm not very traditional lol (I'm female by the way)

Mrs_Ryan

OH has very little memory because of his disability so he relies on me to tell him our anniversary date. However as the years pass it's becoming more difficult for me to remember! I know its October but I do keep forgetting the date. However I always remember and always get him a card - he forgot the other year and he felt bad but usually he does when I remind him He bought me a present on our 5th anniversary and we're going for a meal this year but we don't usually bother.

And we're not married either but I'm sorry to me it's not just a 'memorable date' just because we don't have a piece of paper making our relationship 'official!'

Dumbe

I have never remembered our wedding anniversary .. Dh does though. If he didn't remind me we probably wouldn't do anything, we do more because he wants to!

I know it's vaguely arround feb but I don't really see what the big deal is? To me it's just another day..

Oh does say I don't have a romantic bone in my body!

daisiegg

**Patty** wrote: »

True but.......anniversaries normally mark the occurrance of an event. i.e. weddings, WW1.......

Since you don't *meet your OH/partner* again....then it's not really an anniversary.....just a memorable date.

Err....what?! You don't get married again, and WW1 doesn't happen again, so anniversaries are not of events that can happen again....what are you on about?!

an·ni·ver·sa·ry (n-vûrs-r)
n. pl. an·ni·ver·sa·ries
1. The annually recurring date of a past event, especially one of historical, national, or personal importance: a wedding anniversary; the anniversary of the founding of Rome.
2. A celebration commemorating such a date.

I'd say the day people met, if they choose it to be, is a 'past event of personal importance' that has an 'annually recurring date' why shouldn't they consider it an anniversary? It fits the definition

Bangton

**Patty** wrote: »

True but.......anniversaries normally mark the occurrance of an event. i.e. weddings, WW1.......

Since you don't *meet your OH/partner* again....then it's not really an anniversary.....just a memorable date.

I don't get this either Patty.. sorry. Most people I know celebrate some sort of anniversary even as non marrieds. Or they at least acknowledge the time they have been together. I've been with my OH 12 years and we are both not into marriage or the frivolity that often comes with it so probably won't bother either. That said since we've outdone many married couples my age I think I can do as I please and celebrate it if I want to!

aileth

cats2012 wrote: »

See I'm surprised by this, both me and my OH's family have always done anniversary cards for people and never thought anything of it - I thought it was normal!

No one does cards unless it's a 'big' one. We'll get a text saying happy anniversary or such. No one is really bothered by it in our family really and suits me fine, more dates I don't need to stress about what to get people!

My mum and dad have been married about 37 years now and they always do something for it, whether it be my dad just brings a bouquet home, or buys her a really bling watch.

They had a massive family gathering for their 25th and went on holiday for their 35th, but in-between not much at all.