Third wheel

Kynthia

So they get upset when you tell them you don't want to see them as a couple. I can understand why. I think this problem is in your head and will impact your friendships.

burnoutbabe

maybe plan things occasionally that are just girls only = meet for coffee or lunch? If you say you wanted to chat to her alone about something, then surely she'd be fine about meeting seperately. But if its just general socialising, the more the merrier? At weekends I'd expect people to come as couples. Drinks after work tend to be more solo affairs.

Or find more single mates to hang out with.

arbroath_lass

Actually it screams, we like you, we enjoy your company, we don't give a flying ^&*( if you are single or in a relationship.

Are couples only allowed to socialise with other couples, now?

duchy

Do you really believe your friends are that shallow ?

Could the possibility that they like your company and don't give a monkeys if you are solo or otherwise be a factor.

Sounds like the only person who finds your current lack of a partner a problem is you !

If you enjoy their company go-if you don't -then graciously decline - but make sure you are turning a nice time out down for a good reason and not an imagined one !!

Gigervamp

burnoutbabe wrote: »

maybe plan things occasionally that are just girls only = meet for coffee or lunch?

Going by OP's username, I'd say that OP is a bloke.

[Deleted User]

Im getting to the point in my life now where relationships and meeting guys is getting to stressful.
Just ended another date, hes getting far too heavy too quickly. I either attract the ones that want nothing serious or others that love you within a few dates.. and nothing in between.
First time ive actually admitted it to myself today, not sure how long this feeling will last but, I feel less stress on my own.
The men ive met seem to want an instant relationship and I feel far far too much pressure.
With my friends that are with other halves etc. Theres all the fun of a night out and no stress. I wish my mates were out all the time, but sadly they don't seem to be anymore.

Sneezy

I'm single and its never been a problem for me.

However earlier this year when we went for a day out there were 7 of us - my parents, my sisters and both their boyfriends and me - I hated it and felt like the 7th wheel when we were walking along the front. I have to put up with it as we don't get many chances to do stuff as a family (because of work & life in general).

daisiegg

I think it is slightly silly to think people see someone out with a couple/couples as a 'loser'. For all the casual onlooker knows, the single person could have a partner or spouse who just isn't out with them at the moment! In fact my husband works away a lot, so sometimes I might be a third wheel out with couple friends, and I hope people looking on don't think I am a 'loser'! Equally we have lots of friends with young children and quite often they can't get a babysitter so they take it in turns to come out. I have one particular friend is quite often out with my husband and I - she has a husband and children at home so I don't think you can look at a 'third wheel' and immediately think 'single loser'!

Obviously I know you are actually single, but my point is, the feeling of 'loser' is only coming from inside. For all anyone looking at you knows, you have a doting wife waiting at home, or a partner who is off jet setting in a fabulous job, or whatever.

Hermia

daisiegg wrote: »

I think it is slightly silly to think people see someone out with a couple/couples as a 'loser'. For all the casual onlooker knows, the single person could have a partner or spouse who just isn't out with them at the moment!

Someone may also think the people are part of a menage a trois! That would certainly jazz up my image if someone thought that!

So many people dump their single friends the moment they couple up it seems silly to criticise couples for inviting out a single friend. Anyway, how would you necessarily know it's a couple and a single. I suppose if the couple were all over each other it would obvious, but would that sort of couple invite a third party to accompany them.

harrys_nan

Be happy you have good friends who want to be in your company