Third wheel

maintenanceman

It's weird sometimes you feel like you need one when you are invited out by an already established couple and you are just the third wheel. It hs happened a couple of times and they get upset when yo make excuses, as if it's almost personal. The thing is being the third wheel is very embarssing and screams LOSER. I wish they would understand.

Netwizard

I'm used to it now. All my mates (Both male and female) are taken, so its a given if I go out with any of them, i'm the only singleton

thorsoak

maintenanceman wrote: »

It's weird sometimes you feel like you need one when you are invited out by an already established couple and you are just the third wheel. It hs happened a couple of times and they get upset when yo make excuses, as if it's almost personal. The thing is being the third wheel is very embarssing and screams LOSER. I wish they would understand.

Not in my book ...it screams out SURVIVOR! I AM STILL ALIVE! I AM FINDING MY WAY!

fozziebeartoo

It says to me......arent I lucky to have good friends who make sure I am included and not excluded!!

Pollycat

maintenanceman wrote: »

It's weird sometimes you feel like you need one when you are invited out by an already established couple and you are just the third wheel. It hs happened a couple of times and they get upset when yo make excuses, as if it's almost personal. The thing is being the third wheel is very embarssing and screams LOSER. I wish they would understand.

Maybe if you stopped making excuses and explained exactly how you feel, they will be able to understand.

Mojisola

maintenanceman wrote: »

It's weird sometimes you feel like you need one when you are invited out by an already established couple and you are just the third wheel. It hs happened a couple of times and they get upset when yo make excuses, as if it's almost personal. The thing is being the third wheel is very embarssing and screams LOSER. I wish they would understand.

fozziebeartoo wrote: »

It says to me......arent I lucky to have good friends who make sure I am included and not excluded!!

And be glad that you don't find they've also invited "someone they think you'll like" every time you meet up with them!

They don't seem to look on you as a loser otherwise they'd be matchmaking whenever they could. You must appear happy to be as you are.

lika_86

I don't think I'd even think about it, just see it as an opportunity to catch up with my friends.

burnoutbabe

Should we never take out single friends then, incase they think they are losers?

I wouldn't have seen my mates when I was single if they weren't with their husbands, there were often 5 or 7 of us (3 couples and me) but it never really bothered me.

How are the couples in the OP making the OP feel like a third wheel? are they all touchy feely??

marisco_2

I am single and quite often meet up with 'couple' friends of mine. To be honest I've never viewed myself as a third wheel when socialising with them. I am quite sure they also don't view me as some needy person, who they cant bare to leave out incase I am doomed to living life on a shelf either.

itsanne

I have single friends. I'd hate to not see them just because my husband was there. I also wouldn't want to exclude them just because they were single.

OP, this seems a problem in your imagination. If people like you enough to invite you, go and enjoy it. Think how awful it would be to be left out of everything just because you don't have a partner.

Takeaway_Addict

Netwizard wrote: »

I'm used to it now. All my mates (Both male and female) are taken, so its a given if I go out with any of them, i'm the only singleton

Ditto...but I like being single