Divorce/House/Rights Advice

BitterAndTwisted

It really doesn't matter what she's filed as the reason for the marriage having failed, as long as it's not accusations of intimidation and violence which could come back to haunt you. No-one is interested and no-one will know, bar the two of you.

I think you're focussing on the wrong thing here: you should be concentrating on retaining ownership of every single penny of the home you shared. You supplied the deposit. You paid the mortgage. As she only paid £50 towards the housekeeping you were financially supporting her. Therefore she is entitled to nothing, Fight for that.

yoda84

Your right BitterAndTwisted - that'd definatley what i will fight for, i just don't understand the cheek of her even asking for anything.

My solicitor said she wouldnt get 50% due to the length of the marriage and i can prove i paid the deposit (20k), all the work that neede doing in the house (around 17k) and since then the mortgage...BUT it doesn't make it any easier to deal with on a day to day basis...

I will definatley fight for my home!

D

BitterAndTwisted

You don't have to understand why she's doing what she is: she is not the person you thought you married, obviously. Try to disengage your emotional hurt from the financial reality. Easy to say but hard to do, I know.

She is not entitled to a single penny from you. In your position I wouldn't contribute a single farthing to her legal expenses and I'd tell her to go hang for it: she's the one who wants the marriage to end so she can pay her costs for it. If she thinks she's entitled to extricate any money from you, she can apply to the court at her own expense for it. I think it's extremely unlikely that she would do so given that she has limited funds.

If you needed any help to get over her vile betrayal, she's providing it in spades.

yoda84

Update:

Things are still ongoing, the decree nisi should be issued in a few weeks. My problem now is that i have received some inheritance (not a fortune but a few k) from the passing of my best friend. I am loathed to think she could receive even a penny of it but my solicitor says i have to declare it, but it will be stressed that its been issued ling after we started divorve proceedings.

anyone got any experience with this? I'm totally at the end of my teather!

Errata

Take your solicitor's advice, they're the experts not you.