My forthcoming nuptials.

Tropez

Following on from my previous thread which did take an unexpected but not unwelcome twist when my partner proposed to me, at three o'clock in the morning, when I was half asleep, having woken me up (so romantic!) some of you expressed an interest in being kept up to date with our wedding plans.

I opted not to bump that thread again because it's obviously gone a tad off course

We took a little jaunt off to the coast for the bank holiday weekend. I was quite pleased that the ring I had ordered at the jewelers for her was available on the Saturday morning, so was able to craftily pick it up while she was in the shower under the, if I do say so myself, genius facade of buying some sunscreen. Granted, I did forget to pick up any sunscreen but thankfully she never asked about that.

I presented her the ring later that night and was pleased that the sky was relatively clear. I opted not to go down on bended knee because firstly, I have a knee injury so any attempt to do so may well involve difficulty getting up again, and plus she did propose to me so I felt that ship had sailed

We did discuss ideas for the wedding, and came to the decision that as we're not planning on inviting many people at all, we could hold it abroad. For those we do invite then we can pay for their tickets. Currently, we've shortlisted five cities to have the wedding at and we (or in this case, me) will be checking any legal and local issues relating to foreign citizens being married there, and registering it back here. So far, no where has presented an obvious problem though I have only briefly checked thus far.

My partner also decided upon three dates. One was New Year's Day, which might be cutting it a bit close given I imagine it is quite popular, the other was the anniversary of when we met and the other she suggested was the anniversary of our first date; the latter despite the fact that I was unaware we were dating until a month after the fact.

She also said she wants to get married at night because the stars stretch on for eternity.

And that's about it. I have the job of researching her wish list for the next few days, as well as my actual job, and I suppose I should be proactive and work out a budget of who we can afford to take. It would be nice to ask her cousin, given she appears to be responsible for my partner's rather sudden change of heart regarding marriage, but with three children that might be unworkable. We shall see...

itsanne

Delighted you're going to keep us posted!

Brighton_belle

All sounds wonderful chez Tropez:D.
We had a simple do, 10 weeks after proposal. Simple made the day (and run up) all the more precious to us.

marisco_2

What a lovely thread, goes a long way to brightening a Tuesday morning. Enjoy all your wedding planning, it is such a magical time in a couples life

Mojisola

I love your posts! If you had a blog, I'd follow it.

Tropez

itsanne wrote: »

Delighted you're going to keep us posted!

Well you did ask nicely

Brighton_belle wrote: »

All sounds wonderful chez Tropez:D.
We had a simple do, 10 weeks after proposal. Simple made the day (and run up) all the more precious to us.

Yeah, simple is the way we're going. I was bluntly told we wouldn't be having any prolonged engagement and it seems for her the location is more important than anything particularly fancy. She wants to be able to see the stars, which is probably why she's leaning towards California or Nevada, although Vancouver was on the shortlist too.

marisco wrote: »

What a lovely thread, goes a long way to brightening a Tuesday morning. Enjoy all your wedding planning, it is such a magical time in a couples life

Thank you.

I get to tell my mum later. She'll likely both be thrilled (because we've been living in sin, and that's naughty apparently) and irate that I didn't call her five minutes after I was proposed to. She'll also probably have something to say about my partner proposing to me, because she's a traditionalist, and it should be the other way round so I'm told.

Mojisola wrote: »

I love your posts! If you had a blog, I'd follow it.

You're all very big on the idea of me getting a blog. I would have to think of some interesting things to say though but I'm glad you like my posts.

Mojisola

Tropez wrote: »

You're all very big on the idea of me getting a blog. I would have to think of some interesting things to say though but I'm glad you like my posts.

The way you write about all the everyday things makes them interesting!

claire16c

Just to say if you do pick the US it's a great place as they don't have so many silly rules like we do here, so a wedding under the stars outside should actually be possible! You don't need to register anything when you come back btw.

Tropez

claire16c wrote: »

Just to say if you do pick the US it's a great place as they don't have so many silly rules like we do here, so a wedding under the stars outside should actually be possible! You don't need to register anything when you come back btw.

Thanks, that is good to hear. One thing I noticed while perusing potential wedding venues in Las Vegas was that a lot of them had pictures of "happy couples" (I'm guessing models) against a night sky backdrop, so I was hoping it would be the case that night-marriages aren't impossible to pull off. Plus, you do hear of a lot of drunken people getting married after a win at the roulette table...

As I'm new to this and having looked at the Gov website, it does indeed seem to say you don't need to register anything here if you marry in the US, is there a benefit for depositing the marriage certificate in the UK? It isn't too expensive so seems practical unless it is absolutely pointless.

claire16c

Yup you can pretty much do what you like in the US if you can find someone to carry it out for you. You can also have a ceremony that incorporates as much or as no religion as you like, no rules on checking lyrics in songs or silly stuff like that. Plus you can get married outside.

When we got home I researched it and the only benefit was that if your relatives want to search for your marriage certificates when researching family history in 50 odd years time or whatever they will be able to find it. Plus I think you had to send in your certificate - er no thanks ill keep it thanks! So yes pointless

Another benefit I had was that it was really easy to order copies of the certificates there & wasn't too expensive & they look exactly like the original. So when I've needed to send it off for my passport etc, I've never needed to risk loosing my original like my friends have here, as I have 3 copies that look just the same.

One thing you will need to decide is what your name will be after the wedding if you are changing it - in the US the marriage certificate is the legal document for changing your name so your new & old names go on there at the bottom.

Me & DH double barrelled so this was useful for us as it clearly shows he changed his name as well as myself when sending it off to various places here

MrsAtobe

As this is MSE, how about seeing if anywhere in the Brecon Beacons could meet your needs? Only one of five places in the world where you are guaranteed dark skies.

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-wales-21496562

I appreciate it might not be your thing, but that article does list the other four as well.