How to Deal With a Girlfriend Who is Messy

danih

My husband is just awful - still needs reminded to put rubbish in the bin.

I have tried everything! I have gone weeks without doing his laundry - he buys new clothes, samd with dishes. He prefers takeaway to home cooked meals. I haven't tidied the house for weeks - he isn't a bit bothered, even brought friends family home. He is just so laid back I could absolutely throttle him!

Telling him how much this upsets me - I resent coming home from my 2 stressful jobs to sweetie paper on the floor, no thought given to dinner even when he has been off all day - achieved nothing. He just doesn't get it.

After 7 years, he has learnt that a stressed out partner makes a rotten atmosphere. So this is the only motivation for him to do chores. And he does do everything I ask him to, and does it well. But I have go ask him to do everything he does. Please put your coke cans in the bin / empty kitchen bin / before you go to bed, what nites do you want to make dinner this week? I have to ask him to do whatever on the day, giving him plenty of time to do it, and remind him of things he agreed to earlier in the week. He has agreed to consistently do the bins and a few other things, but when I don't remind him out wheelie bin doesn't get emptied.

Its a frustrating compromise for me - I feel I shouldn't have to tell a 32 year old nurse who works less hours then me to pick his rubbish from 3 days ago off the floor. But it does work well.

Luckily for us, his abilty to leave a trail of mess behind him (he is like a tornado, you wouldn't believe what he can do when left in a clean house for 2 hours) is his only flaw. I have an amazing husband who is worth the stress and work I put into this
issue.

Best of luck!

bltchef

wow that sound like my gf she is a ward sister i feel your pain wel lthanks for the tips i will keep trying they is all hope

Bella73

I'm naturally messy but my hubby is very tidy and I make a big effort as I know it makes him happy. I found that finding a home for everything helped me as everything has an actual place so I make sure I put it back now. It took me ages to get to grips with but now I do it out of habit and actually like being tidy these days!

Have all your bits and pieces got actual homes? This can really help.