Real life moral dilemma

MessyBetty1

I have come to old style as you seem a nice bunch:) I have a dilemma. A lady on freecycle offered the belongings of her uncle's home, free. (I understand that she wanted it cleared and didn't want the expense of a skip) I took a number of items as I was rebuilding a life for me and my children (older in age however still at home) some of which I no longer use/wish to have I listed them on ebay and the items have sold. I have no way of contacting the lady, I give to charity often, so my dilemma is what should I do with the money? Would it be wrong of me to keep it?
Thank you for reading and in advance for your thoughts x

Tiglath

Keep it - no issues really.

bluebag

MessyBetty1 wrote: »

I have come to old style as you seem a nice bunch:) I have a dilemma. A lady on freecycle offered the belongings of her uncle's home, free. (I understand that she wanted it cleared and didn't want the expense of a skip) I took a number of items as I was rebuilding a life for me and my children (older in age however still at home) some of which I no longer use/wish to have I listed them on ebay and the items have sold. I have no way of contacting the lady, I give to charity often, so my dilemma is what should I do with the money? Would it be wrong of me to keep it?
Thank you for reading and in advance for your thoughts x

Hi, I lost my mum earlier this year, she had a houseful of stuff the same as most of us. I had no attachment to much of it and was very grateful to people who took stuff and made good use of it ... better than going to landfill.

What they did with it is no concern of mine. Better selling it than wasting it.

I would be very pleased if someone gained a little financial help from it and mum would have been too.

MessyBetty1

bluebag thank you for sharing your experience and for your 'blessing' in a way x x

katep23

It's lovely to see that some people have a conscience :A

It was a mutually beneficial relationship, the items stayed out of landfill, didn't have to be skipped and filled a requirement for you; what you do with them now is down to you xx

Mojisola

MessyBetty1 wrote: »

I have come to old style as you seem a nice bunch:) I have a dilemma. A lady on freecycle offered the belongings of her uncle's home, free. (I understand that she wanted it cleared and didn't want the expense of a skip) I took a number of items as I was rebuilding a life for me and my children (older in age however still at home) some of which I no longer use/wish to have I listed them on ebay and the items have sold.

I have no way of contacting the lady, I give to charity often, so my dilemma is what should I do with the money? Would it be wrong of me to keep it?

No. I've been in that position recently. I gave some things to a charity but plenty of other stuff has gone on Freegle.

I prefer not to give to people who use Freegle as a source for their ebay business but, if I give something away and the person later has no need for it, it's now theirs to do with as they wish.

You saved the Offerer the cost of a skip and the sight of her uncle's belongings going to the tip.

maman

katep23 wrote: »

It's lovely to see that some people have a conscience :A

It was a mutually beneficial relationship, the items stayed out of landfill, didn't have to be skipped and filled a requirement for you; what you do with them now is down to you xx

Totally agree with this. If she'd had the time/patience/inclination to ebay the stuff in the first place she'd have done so. Instead her priority was to get someone to clear it out for her. You did that and helped her out. Now it's entirely up to you.

-taff

Once it's been given, it's your to do with as you see fit. You didn't take the stuff intending to sell it, but now you're finished with it so you can do what you like with it and you have still kept it out of landfill.

honeythewitch

I would pass on the kindness by either using the money to buy a gift or give it to charity,but it is yours to do as you wish with.

[Deleted User]

I too would probably pass on some of my luck to someone else ,perhaps some basic food stuff to a local food bank, or towards your favorite charity..What goes round comes round.I like to try to find a home or pass things on that are no longer of any use to me rather than take to the tip.Anything I take there is usually beyond redemption for anything at all :)

charlies-aunt

I would agree with the other posters - you did the lady a big favour by quickly and efficiently clearing her uncles house at no cost or time or trouble to her.

Just imagine how expensive it would have been for her, if she had had to pay for the skip and an hourly rate to someone to clear it for her!

If she was considering chucking everything into a skip, it would seem that she considered the items to be of no value to her - if you have been made some money from selling some of the items, that's your reward for the time and effort that you've put in.