feeling sorry for myself

paulineb_2

I agree, the illness might have knocked the stuffing out of her

My gran was adamant that she didnt want carers in or meals on wheels and my mum did most of the things you do for your mum for her, she didnt need personal care but she didnt want meals on wheels, was adamant about that, was proud and wanted her own home to be her space. But it is hard going, my mum loved my gran and misses her terribly, but she worked full time and saw my gran every day, dealt with everything and was happy to do it, but it isnt easy, because you worry.

But she never gave up, even after being hospitalised a few times, I can totally understand why someone might not want anyone apart from their own to cook for them, but I do think she might just be feeling awful just now and it will pass and not on the verge of giving up

Bennifred

OP - I hope you are looking after yourself, as well as your mother. Are you spending all your time with her? I do think you need some time where you do things just for yourself, if possible.
If your mother just wants to take it easy and rest at the moment then maybe you should accept this and take some time for yourself.
Have a virtual hug from me! :grouphug:

ERICS_MUM

thank you all for your kind and useful posts, many based on personal experiences.

For the mo I'm going to try hard to "let her be", which will be difficult for me because I'm the sort who keeps going until I get something sorted (some say pushy !).

From what some of you have said, there's the chance that she might start to perk up in due course.

Thanks again