I -NEED- PIP, will I get it?

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jacques_chirac wrote: »

Can you not see the contradiction there? Please don't use the same tactic on your benefit forms - exaggeration in that context is likely to amount to fraud.

Not really - I didn't exaggerate in that sense - everything that I wrote, I'm truly feeling. I just meant that I was exaggerating with, for example, 'MY SOUL IS CONSUMED BY A RAGING BLACK ABYSS' or whichever it was - which I obviously won't write on my forms. But the way I'm feeling is true. And there is nothing which I've said which would amount to fraud.

marliepanda wrote: »

Hmmmm.

You can capitalise and tell us all how much you 'need' benefits but that doesn't mean you are entitled to them.

True, that's what I came here to find out (but not only here, of course).

scootw1 wrote: »

OP, while I do feel for you with your disfigurement you make it sound as if you are the only one who has ever been through this. Katie piper had acid thrown in her face and Simon Weston received 46% burns in the falklands but live a normal life. You need the to summon up the strength as they did and go to see your gp.

Thanks - it's true and this is what I'm doing.

DiddlySquat_2

I think its a wind up.

Sorry if youre genuine op but you have the least amount of sincerity i have ever seen in someone who suffers mental problems.

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DiddlySquat wrote: »

I think its a wind up.

Sorry if youre genuine op but you have the least amount of sincerity i have ever seen in someone who suffers mental problems.

I am genuine - how do you mean I'm insincere? I'm just trying my best to make light of which is very horrible and mentally painful for me - keeping in as good spirits as possible despite how I feel.

Also, I didn't blast anyone for disbelieving me, and I said thank you to all help.

I am sincere.

EDIT: I'm 100% genuine and it's slightly disappointing that people seem to disbelieve me because I want to be upbeat about it. Is that not the right way to act? No matter what bad may come your way, it's always good to be as positive as you can about it!

What I said about how I'm feeling - it's all true, a fact. I wouldn't make it up and I'm not one to go onto forums and troll people like this - I think people that actually do that are mean and annoying. But this isn't the case with me.

GlasweJen

My brother was attacked on a bus one Sunday afternoon. The weapon was a broken bottle and he needed 72 stitches to his face. He has been left with a permanent hole right in the middle of his forehead as a result of infection on the glass (flesh eating disease) and he is lucky to be alive with the amount of blood he lost.

He was knocked for 6, was due to start his new job the next day. Thankfully his boss was understanding and they put back his start date by a few weeks to help him recover first.

He now works in optics like me (qualified as an optometrist) and serves customers day in and out with a 3 inch hole on his forehead, yes he has grafts but they really are not great.

I do think he would have sunk into depression if it wasn't for a charity called changing faces https://www.changingfaces.org.uk/You they provided support and arranged for him to learn to use camoflague make up to cover up while he learned to live with his disfigurement. He has had therapy and I don't think he thinks much about his face any more. He appeared in a few documentaries about crime in Glasgow and though his face is shocking he is beyond it now.

I hope you get there OP, hiding away on benefits won't help you any though.

Pollycat

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Basically, I'm a 22 year old man (young man, super-old teenager, whatever) and I suffer EXTREME anxiety due to a damaged jaw which within a couple of months turned me from being really confident and self-admittedly attractive to messed-up looking and EXTREMELY ANXIOUS!

My particular 'illness' is extremely difficult to diagnose and I have met with 4 different specialists, all of whom don't know jack about what's up with me, so finding physical treatment is very distant at the moment (if possible at all).

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Also, everyone that knows me asks what's up with me and mentions it constantly (even in a nice way, or an unknowing way), so there's no escape, there's no forgetting about it.

The several doctors and so on I've spoken to all have the same idea - see more specialists (which I am continuing to do, and which takes lots of waiting time and the like) and take medication - which doesn't work!

TORTURED wrote: »

I don't know how other people cope with it, but imagine - you're living, looking normal for all of your life then all of a sudden you damage YOUR FACE and rapidly turn from normal looking to someone who, no matter where you go and no matter how much you try to ignore it, people will react to the way you look, comment about it and some seemingly look upset (even if they try to hide it and be nice) and you can't act it away, nothing. Everyone that ever knew you before notices it and so on and so forth.

It may be the way you express yourself but I can't quite get from your posts what your physical issue is.

You mention several time 'damage' to your face then go on to say that 4 different specialists don't know what's wrong with you and even friends ask what is wrong with you.

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I'm going to apply for ESA, because I'm definite that I need it - it will give me some of the help I need in the meantime.

As someone else has pointed out, it's not a case of you 'need' ESA but more of convincing an official body that you are entitled to it because of your physical/mental condition.

Do you think your doctors and specialists will be able to provide sufficient medical proof for that?

marybelle01

OP - the reason why it is increasingly difficult to believe in what you say is because you are overly drmatic, admit to having exaggerated, have been caught in some not entirely full truths, are focussed on what your entitlements are, are intent upon feeling sorry for yourself when, with the best will in the world, there are plenty of people far worse off; and you are remarkable coy about saying what is actually wrong with you and why that prevents you from working. You aren't helping yourself if you are genuine, and you are inviting people to question what you are saying. There's lots of experienced and knowledgeable people here. But they aren't going to waste their time helping you if you can't meet them half way.

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marybelle01 wrote: »

OP - the reason why it is increasingly difficult to believe in what you say is because you are overly drmatic, admit to having exaggerated, have been caught in some not entirely full truths, are focussed on what your entitlements are, are intent upon feeling sorry for yourself when, with the best will in the world, there are plenty of people far worse off; and you are remarkable coy about saying what is actually wrong with you and why that prevents you from working. You aren't helping yourself if you are genuine, and you are inviting people to question what you are saying. There's lots of experienced and knowledgeable people here. But they aren't going to waste their time helping you if you can't meet them half way.

Excuse me? Everything I've said is full truth. You imply that I'm lying! Which I'm not. As I keep saying, everything I say is true. Sure, I have been dramatic - but they're all facts!

Anyway, I've got a lot of response here and know what I need to do and have been putting it into action.

Thanks for all the kind help everyone.

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Pollycat wrote: »

It may be the way you express yourself but I can't quite get from your posts what your physical issue is.

You mention several time 'damage' to your face then go on to say that 4 different specialists don't know what's wrong with you and even friends ask what is wrong with you.



As someone else has pointed out, it's not a case of you 'need' ESA but more of convincing an official body that you are entitled to it because of your physical/mental condition.

Do you think your doctors and specialists will be able to provide sufficient medical proof for that?

Yep, thanks a lot for your great and thoughtful responses, I really do appreciate all the feedback I've got here.

marybelle01

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Excuse me? Everything I've said is full truth. You imply that I'm lying! Which I'm not. As I keep saying, everything I say is true. Sure, I have been dramatic - but they're all facts!

I neither said, nor implied, any such thing. I explained to you why some readers may have thought this (and your other thread) is a wind up. You admit to exagerating; there are inconsitencies (you have no family - except for a father and sister), and you appear to have done very little to help yourself other than enquire here about / expect benefits for a "disability" which you have failed to explain. That is why it may seem that you are winding people up. And that is an explanation not an accusation. It is in your hands to change that perception.

Pippin12

What's wrong with your face?