Hi. My name’s Pollydaydream and I’m not living in the real world!

southernscouser

Polly there is only ever one winner in gambling and thats the bookie/casino. Thats why there are so many of them and they all drive nice cars and live in expensive houses.

Gambling and drinking are addictions and they are very difficult to beat on your own. You want to beat them so seek the advice and help you deserve, and need.

As for feeling lonely, whenever you do, just log on to here. There is a massive community here and almost always someone pottering about and happy to have a chat.

It's all very overwhelming, so much advice to take on board, so many bits of paper to sort through etc, but you will come through it if you really want to. We are all testament to that!

Good luck.

SarahNeedle1872

Hi Polly, welcome to DFW. I don't really have any advice other than what has been said, just wanted to give u a :grouphug:.... and to say you have made a big step facing ur problems, and posting on her. There are ALWAYS people to talk to on here, pretty much 24 hrs a day - I know that coz I'm on here some days at ridiculous times in the morning!

Sarah x

Pobby

Hi Polly and well done for posting.Trying to kick gambling alone is tough.

http://www.sfcghub.com/cgsf1.html

This is a place where I know for certain you will get support.Your story is so true of many but gambling certainly can be overcome.Loverly people in the chat room that really understand.You will be most welcome.

Sea78

Hi Polly,

Welcome to the board - I can guarentee that you'll get so much help and support here you won't feel so lonely! I spend hours on this site!

I hope you've read some of the fab websites above and have downloaded Gamblock that Lynz said about too.

Look forward to seeing your SOA and well done for going through the CCCS - it's so hard isn't it?

Sea xxxxx

Crown

Hi Polly, Welcome to DFW!

Online gambling is something that shouldnt be taken lightly. I became hooked last year playing poker online. I am now a recovering compulsive gambler. I started attending G.A. Meetings and havent had a bet in 4 months. I have learnt that Compulsive gambling is an illness progressive in its nature. People gamble for a lot of different reasons but some people get hooked because we use it as a way to escape the "normality" of life.

I dont wish to hijhack your thread but seriously consider attending your local G.A. Meeting. I never thought I would have to and thought the people would be complete nut cases and although there are some oddballs most people are people in important positions in there work places. It can affect anyone from any walk of life. Give the helpline number a call and give yourself a chance. Its not just a case of willpower as I have it abundance. G.A has been the only thing that has stopped me from gambling

Your in the right place to sort your debts out and wish you all the bestwith it

taxi73

Hi Polly..well done on posting myself I used to gamble on bingo sites a couple of years ago also because I was lonely but one day had my LB moment and never looked back...you can beat it...maybe see your DR as you sound like you have depression and be honest with him and he may refer you for councilling...gamblock sounds a good idea and logging on to here every time you feel lonely...you will come out the other side...I wish you luck

kathfisch

Hi Polly! Welcome to dfw

Any time you feel lonely, this is the place to come! People do love to chat about anything and nothing, it doesn't have to be debt related - sometimes what you need is a break from that. If there isn't a 'chat' thread going, just start one, don't be shy! If you go to the forum index here: http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/index.html and scroll down a little bit to see Debt Free Wannabe, you can see the number of people viewing the forum, just to remind you you're not alone.

We're a friendly bunch so stick around

Kath

Pollydaydream

Hello again.

Well, I’ve had a hell of a day.

I came on here this morning with this idea that something (well, quite a lot really) was wrong and I wasn’t living in the real world, but I still really hadn’t faced up to the true situation.

Even as late as this afternoon, I was ready to post on here – this week I’m going to do this, and this, and this, and this. This week I’m going to pull myself together, sort myself out, stop being stupid. I’ve spent the last 6 months making lists of what I’m going to do. Of course, I wouldn’t have done half of those things, and then I would have felt bad about myself, and gambled, drunk, whatever, and so the cycle continues.

The real problem is that I am a compulsive gambler. There, I’ve said it. I don’t like or want to admit it, but I’ve been to some of the sites some of you have suggested, and when I read my exact, same thoughts, feelings and actions being spoken to me by God knows how many other people, I can’t really deny it any longer, can I?

Talk about a lightbulb moment!

I’m new to using forums, so I don’t know the protocol for hitting the ‘thank you’ button. I want to thank you all. Every one of you who has replied to me has said something that has got me a little bit closer to seeing the light. You’ve directed me to other threads and sites which have made it difficult for me to ignore the true situation anymore and carry on in my daydream world.

I don’t know what I’m going to do now. I don’t have a plan to deal with this at the moment (other than getting some more help), and strangely, that’s actually a relief.

I’m scared, I’m p****d off that I’ve managed to get myself another addiction to deal with (although it does put drinking and smoking a little in the shade at the moment – no doubt they will have their day), but, for the first time in a long time, I’m also quite calm and can actually see a ray of hope on the horizon.

I think I might be starting to get addicted to talking about myself, so I think I’ll sign off now and go to bed.


Polly

southernscouser

Pollydaydream wrote: »

I’m new to using forums, so I don’t know the protocol for hitting the ‘thank you’ button.

We don't bother with the thanks button. We normally just post nakkie pics of ourselves instead, but it's forum etiquite for you to go first.

southernscouser

Pollydaydream wrote: »

I think I might be starting to get addicted to talking about myself

Go ahead. I've made over 17,500 posts and they've all been about me.

But I'm such a great guy that people love hearing about me! :undecided :rotfl: