meeting friends on holiday

red_devil

Have any of you made friends on holiday finding that when you get home, people dont really keep in touch, are you someone that dosent keep in touch.

Met some people on holiday last year really gelled and had a good time, there was some contact for a while then they stopped it, I emailed a couple of times earlier this year, but they didnt respond, they havent emailed since either. I dont want to phone bit awkaward.

Kind of upset me, left wondering why?

Dont know whether to send email asking why or leave it what would you do?

makes me wary now too.

Amanda65

Leave it and move on. I wouldn't think it anything you've done, just that now you're both back in daily life there is too mcuh else going on to keep up contact.

tea_lover

Don't send another email! You've made contact, they don't want to reply (for whatever reason). Pursuing it further could be seen as a bit stalker-ish.

Generally I think people you meet on holiday aren't ever going to be proper friends as such (I'm sure there are some exceptions). You're just people in the same situation who enjoy the company for a few days.

Reminds me of the Friends episode where Chandler and Monica come back from their honeymoon

Hermia

To be honest it sounds completely normal to me. I've met lots of lovely people when travelling and only kept in touch with a few. Sometimes when you get back home you realise that you actually don't have anything in common in real life.

Don't be upset by it. Some people are meant to be friends for life and some just for a short time. Doesn't make it any less special or valid.

Janey3

Yes, we've met some lovely people whilst on holiday over the years, sharing tables at meal time, chatting of an evening in the hotel, and sharing some excursions together. On the last night, we are all sad to be going home, losing each other's company, and exchanging addresses etc., with promises to keep in touch.
Then we arrive home and we get back into our daily routine and slowly our new found 'friends' take a back burner.

Remember the good times you had with your holiday friends and how they made your holiday special.

I know it hurts when you get no response, it has happened to us over the years - but we remember the good times and move on and, no, I wouldn't be e-mailing them again.

pinkshoes

They clearly don't have time to fit you into their "normal" life routine, so just forget them and move on!

Some friendships are just meant to be short term things.

I had a really good friend last year and we did a work placement together at uni, together every day, and had a right laugh. We promise to meet over the holidays, and since then, despite me texting her a few times, and her saying she'll text me when she's back from her holiday, I've not heard from her since! C'est la vie!

Birdie85

It's much like a holiday romance, doomed to fizzle out once you're back home. We've made friends that we got on well with on holidays but not bothered to keep in touch with once back home. They live too far away to meet up with easily and we've got our own friends at home to socialise with... you just settle back into normal life and we're not desperate to continue a friendship with people we had a few drinks with over a 2 week period. We look back and smile at the memories but it wouldn't be the same if we met up in rainy old England!

red_devil

Birdie85 wrote: »

It's much like a holiday romance, doomed to fizzle out once you're back home. We've made friends that we got on well with on holidays but not bothered to keep in touch with once back home. They live too far away to meet up with easily and we've got our own friends at home to socialise with... you just settle back into normal life and we're not desperate to continue a friendship with people we had a few drinks with over a 2 week period. We look back and smile at the memories but it wouldn't be the same if we met up in rainy old England!

the thing is we often went on the same holiday and they did too so the chances are we could have arranged to meet again if that makes sense. We both went often to the area we met at.

tea_lover

They could just be busy, having a rubbish few months etc. I'm sure it's nothing you've done!

pukkamum

Yes stayed friends with people I met on holiday, I married one of them, seriously though maybe they're just not that into you?
We made friends with a couple on holiday with similar aged kids got on famously met up after and realised they weren't our type of people.
Stop emailing before you completely freak them out!

geoffky

Holiday friends are just that....Often at the other end of the country to us...
I must admit i have met some real crackers while on holiday...
How about the family from Manchester covered in tattoos(the matriarch included) and whose language would make a docker blush..
Letting the world know they had come on holiday with the money they had all got from a insurance scam for whiplash.