Should Children Have Their Own Bedrooms?

themull1

that should say ' wouldn't have'

Troutwrestler

My 2 are 11 and 4 and they share a room, they don't mind and in fact we are looking at moving to a bigger house, they want one room to be for their Xbox and ps3 and they still want to share.

I shared with my brother and I can't remember it bothering me, we got on fine and it was usually after bedtime we sat and talked, my brother and I still get on wonderfully today, and I think it part that has to do with being so close whilst we were younger

pigpen

Mine refuse to NOT share.. even when they have the option!! eg. DD3 (12) and DD4 (10) share a room.. DD3 was off at a sleepover and DD4 begged me to allow DD5 (8) to sleep in with her!!

DD2 has her own room but she is the only one and other than the occasional time when DD3 is being a hormonal spiteful witch none ever express any issue at sharing.

I shared a room with my sister 10 years younger than myself until I was 17.. I have also shared with my brother 8 years younger and my sister 14 years younger.. it is just normal to share a room.

I have the next few bedroom reshuffles sorted in here depending on who moves out first.. not that I am rushing them to move out but because I like to have a plan or some idea what will happen in the next 10 years!

lazer

themull1 wrote: »

I would rather they had separate rooms, which mine have,and i would have a boy and girl sharing when they were older even with a divider.

themull1 wrote: »

that should say ' wouldn't have'

Well that was the only option other than move house, strangely enough my parents hae now moved into a 3 bed house in the town, whereas when we were young it was a 2 bed country cottage, and neither me or my brother would have swapped our lovely cottage for a room each.

My mum was a SAHM, so she could in theory have went to work and they could have afforded a bigger house with a room each, but I'm glad she didn't - I lvoed having my mum there when i was came home from school, when i was off sick, during holidays etc.
Some things are mroe important than a room each.

catkins

I think it's nice if children can have their own room but it is not the end of the world if they can't.

I shared a room with my 2 sisters until I left home in my 20's. They were still having to share bunk beds aged 16 and 21. It wasn't ideal really but we had no choice as it was a council house and the council said we only needed 2 bedrooms as 3 children of the same sex could share regardless of their ages.

I don't think it did us any harm. In fact we all only left home to get married so none of us have ever had our own bedroom!

loracan1

My boys share, if it looked like they were both staying till well beyond their teens I'd probably use the front living room as another bedroom but I'd prefer not.

I shared a room with my sister and loved it, really missed her when she got married.

My dad was one of eleven, he didn't even have a bed to himself!

GwylimT

I shared a room when I was younger, it started as me and my brother (twins) and we had bunk beds in a very small room, when we were eight my parents had a daughter, as we were in a two bed we would be sharing. She started sharing with us before she was a year old, not sure exactly how old but she was still waking up quite a lot at night so our sleep was interrupted for quite a long time.

As she obviously had an earlier bedtime than my brother and I for a long time our bedroom was out of bounds after 6-7pm apart from getting into bed so we didn't disturb her, it also meant to fit a bed in all other furniture was removed so we didn't even have a wardrobe, no room to play and my parents even had to replace the door with a curtain as there wasn't room for bunk beds, a single bed and space for the door to open into the room.

There was nowhere to do your homework in peace, no where to play without mum and dad moaning that you were making a mess or making noise, nowhere to sit and chat with your friends etc apart from on the sofa with mum and dad.

I shared a room with them both until I moved out when I was 17 to live with my grandma as she couldn't look after the house anymore and had started struggling with making meals.

I think at certain ages it is okay to share, starting when the youngest is sleeping through the night and their bedtime isn't too different to the sibling they are sharing with, but when they're eight I would say they need their own room.

When my wife and I started living together I had a son and so he had his own bedroom, we had a three bed home so after a few years we had another child together, when we decided we would like another we waited until my son had moved out. As it stands we had to make an emergency move recently and so settled for a two bed as our youngest is a baby (and not at home yet) and the next oldest is just shy of four, when baby comes home he will stay with us until twoish, by this time we will have moved back to where we are from so he will have his own bedroom to go into.

supersaver2

I suppose it depends on the ages and sex of the children in question and to a degree if they can 'live' together! Me and my brother don't get on at all even now and our teenager years were a nightmare, I moved out as soon as i was 18 into a shared house with my own room - heaven! When you see these articles about families living in cramped conditions and a large number of children all sharing I do wonder why have that many children when you can't afford to house them, can't be much fun growing up cramped without your own space.

Lagoon

memoryoftrees wrote: »

I personally would not have more children than I had bedrooms; ideally, I do think children need their space. It is one thing of course if children choose to share but being forced to due to circumstances is another matter. Again, personally, I would not put children of a different gender together at all and I would want children of the same gender to have their own rooms (or at least the option of their own rooms) by the time they are eight or nine.

Having said that, if the worst thing a child experiences is sharing a room, it isn't as big a deal as all that

I'm in agreement with this. It's not going to damage kids to share a room, but I do think it's important that children have their own space.

Personally I shared a room with one or more of my siblings at various points in my life from their births onwards (I was the oldest) and always desperately wanted my own room. I eventually got one, not that long before I moved out.

clairec79

If I won the lottery then yes I'd move to a house big enough for each of the kids to have their own room -but I'm not willing to take out a huge mortgage to do so

I wouldn't have opposite sex children share (DH wouldn't at all I probably would be happy up to about 5 or 6 unless they complained earlier) although my middle pair (girl and boy) will occasionally choose to sleep in the same room if their eldest sister is away