have you ever dated a friend?!

newcook

PJMardy wrote: »

I guess the complication is his ex in this more than anything - is this what's worrying you most do you think? How long have you and he been friends? And were you friends with him or her first?

I met them both at the same time about 5 years ago but was more close to his ex than I was to him, then we became close about a year ago when his ex left him for someone else and moved across the country (she hasn’t spoken to me since she left – I also had no idea there was someone else until she had gone).

Bazey wrote: »

I've always wanted to bone most of my female friends.

Lmao!!!!!

newcook

Thanks guys, you’ve definitely given me food for thought!!! The irony is, is that this is normally the sort of thing I would get his opinion on!

NAR

Ask him when you are in bed tonight! :eek: :rotfl: :rotfl:

Toxicity

Don't make your decision based on other peoples experiences, good or bad. If you like him, and it sounds like you do, then why not? Sure it's a risk, but if it worked out then the reward would be wonderful.

YOLO!

saker75

I've slept with most of my friends, but not dated them. With one there was always a miss-timing, he was in a relationship when I wasn't and vice versa.

Pee

Another who is with a friend. We weren't really close friends, but we were friends, would talk to one another when we saw one another. Mutual friends weren't immediately delighted. They were concerned it would affect the group dynamic etc.

I am on good speaking terms with all of my exes, so I don't see why you can't be friends, get closer and go back to being friends if it doesn't work.

I think the real advantage is that I knew his good and bad points before we got together, as he knew mine. We knew that one another was genuine and we certainly knew that the chemistry was working just fine.

lazer

This sounds very familar!

I was one of a group of about 10 or so friends at university, and was very close to one of the girls, she then had a child with one of the guys who I was also very close to. We all kept in touch, she moved back home with the child, and contact starting drifting off with her over the years, but i was still in regular touch with the childs father.

To cut a long story short - I always had feelings for him and him for me, but didn't act on it as I never wanted to hurt my my female friends feelings, but as I rarely seen her, she stopped replying to messages, and I probably hadn't seen her in about a year, I got together with him and we are now very happily married - I think our friendship gives a very good base of a happy relationship.

(On the downside the mother of the child wouldn't speak to me for years).

You can't live your life afraid to act on your feelings!

Pee

Although one thought for the long term.

My OH has children. I got together with him about ten years after that relationship broke down and I did not know his partner. My OH is still distressed by effectively losing his children and it does impact on us a bit even though if his ex knew me and took against me and that was the reason for problems, or that she gave as being the reason, I think it would be a real problem. I would like to say we would work through it and be fine, and probably we would, but I think it might be a break point in what is otherwise a fantastic relationship.

Velvet_Glove

I'm marrying my best friend next year - it can work and when it does it is magical.

southoftheriver

For me it hasn't worked and the friendships have been damaged beyond repair as a result. I have a friend who i've known since I was 13 and nothing has happened between us and it never will now!

*Although we made a pact when we were 16 that we'd get married at 30 if we hadn't already and now i'm nearly 29 he keeps reminding me about it!*