Advice pls ?

Rev

syd_b wrote: »

Thank you.
She's gone home now following the argument earlier. The thing is I believe she really loves me. What I can't fathom is what she needs to txt this other bloke (even though only half a dozen times since feb). If I reverse the tables I would do everything in my power to convince her I had cut all ties.
I really hate myself for checking - it's a bit like picking a scab - you know you shouldn't but you can't help yourself.
AND we complete in the house this Friday coming !
She made me promise at the time I wouldn't do anything to this bloke. There is a chance we could bump into him and his wife as apparently live in the same town. The male in me wants to thump him and give him some of the anguish I've had to live with.
I don't condone checking her phone - I know it was wrong but the fact is she didn't stick to what she said she would do.
Shes 36 I'm 44

If she really loved you, she wouldn't knowingly do something that would hurt you.

And changing his details is just beyond suspicious. Why would she not have just said 'we exchange texts about work some times, I need to keep his number'.

You love her and want so much to believe she loves you as much as you love her, which means you're making excuses for her and looking for signs that this is okay. It's not.