Sandbagged ...again :(

**Patty**

Awwww T

Nothing much i can say to make you feel different but

:grouphug::grouphug:

And :coffee:

xx

thorsoak

zaksmum wrote: »

Wouldn't you think your next door neighbours would've invited you over, Thorsoak?

A little bit of consideration goes a long way.

A lady in my road lost her husband a year ago and she's always being invited in to others' houses/parties/days out etc.

Sending you a hug though and thinking of you

No - I certainly wouldn't expect an invitation to a close family party - I've certainly been invited to other occasions that they've hosted - after all, its not as if we've been neighbours for a long time.

thorsoak

lostinrates wrote: »

Sometimes people just need to have some family time. Maybe it was one of those occasions.

Maybe though, thorsoak, maybe you could host a family gathering now? Would it be too much? Something different to how it used to be maybe, but at home?

My children are far-flung - one family in the USA, another on the Isle of Man, another in the west country and only No 1 son living close by - and my brothers & sisters are equally scattered ...:D

However, it looks as if next weekend I'll be having visits from the Isle of Man & USA contingent (I was in the Isle of Man at Easter, and in the USA at the end of May) - and my spare bedroom may well be in use for the rest of August

Thank you for all your good wishes - I was just feeling sorry for myself last evening!

Poppy9

Perhaps you have been coping too well and you needed to actually let out the sadness in you.

Often people force themselves to stop grieving and get on with life but you are only burying the grief.

Your children may not be aware of how lonely you feel at times as you seem to be coping so well so maybe it's time to let your guard down a bit.

Sad days will always hit you when you least expect it just go with the flow and have a little weep and if someone asks just tell them you are feeling sad x

lostinrates

thorsoak wrote: »

My children are far-flung - one family in the USA, another on the Isle of Man, another in the west country and only No 1 son living close by - and my brothers & sisters are equally scattered ...:D

However, it looks as if next weekend I'll be having visits from the Isle of Man & USA contingent (I was in the Isle of Man at Easter, and in the USA at the end of May) - and my spare bedroom may well be in use for the rest of August

Thank you for all your good wishes - I was just feeling sorry for myself last evening!

Ah, makes it harder. Our family is the same, and sometimes it feels difficult when people talk about family get togethers. Distance and some other factors means its unlikely to happen that way for us, we still haven't met dh's new niece because I am unable to fly out to meet her and he doesn't want to go without me.

You might just have been feeling sorry for yourself, but really your strength is tremendous, I see you as a role model. I'm actually slightly in awe of you.

zaxdog

I lost my partner of eight years very suddenly in 2007 and for months afterwards I thought I was coping and being very tough right up until the day I found myself in the supermarket clutching a bottle of Newcastle brown ale and sobbing (he was a Geordie and loved a cold brown ale).

My point being it is always when you are least expecting it that it really hits hard.

Sending you hugs and thinking of you xxxx

thorsoak

zaxdog wrote: »

I lost my partner of eight years very suddenly in 2007 and for months afterwards I thought I was coping and being very tough right up until the day I found myself in the supermarket clutching a bottle of Newcastle brown ale and sobbing (he was a Geordie and loved a cold brown ale).

My point being it is always when you are least expecting it that it really hits hard.

Sending you hugs and thinking of you xxxx

Exactly - its when you least expect it - the side swipe!