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She wasn't there so no harm. A plane crashed in my garden whilst I was out shopping. A near miss? No, I was out shopping. I had a nearer miss from the idiot in the supermarket car park.
Closer miss?
Just because YOU are pragmatic about these things doesn't mean others don't suffer agonies of 'what ifs'.
If you haven't got anything useful to contribute to the thread - then why keep posting? Marisco was shaken and is upset - she certainly doesn't need YOU telling her she is making a fuss about nothing.0 -
Marisco, are the kids ok? Regardless of the effect they saw it all have on you, I assume they are old enough to realise the mangled mess was your car.
The kids are fine now. I feel annoyed with myself for having the reaction I did. As a parent you go out of your way to ensure your kids see you calm, reasoned and balanced as much as possible. There was a lovely lady from one of the houses opposite who took the boys across to her front garden and gave them a drink and things to play with. They were both aware that the car was in an awful state, but were both very happy that their scooters were in one piece as we had taken those with us. They are now excited about us buying a new car and are arguing over what colour it will be.The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own, no apologies or excuses. No one to lean on, rely on or blame. The gift is yours - it is an amazing journey - and you alone are responsible for the quality of it. This is the day your life really begins.0 -
The kids are fine now. I feel annoyed with myself for having the reaction I did. As a parent you go out of your way to ensure your kids see you calm, reasoned and balanced as much as possible. There was a lovely lady from one of the houses opposite who took the boys across to her front garden and gave them a drink and things to play with. They were both aware that the car was in an awful state, but were both very happy that their scooters were in one piece as we had taken those with us. They are now excited about us buying a new car and are arguing over what colour it will be.
So......now you get to show your kids how to bounce back. Real life happens, real emotion does too.
. Bouncing back is a tremendous skill that few are very good at, if you can manage a half way job at that or your ids to emulate I reckon that's more important lesson than many tbh. . Sounds like you are are doing an excellent job of teaching them to find the positives ..looking for new car etc. 0 -
How awful for you, I think people always run through the 'what ifs' more so when their children are involved. Someone was looking after you that day, it wasn't your time.
I don't know how old your children are but I would try not to worry about them. They will know the car was in a bad state and know that if they had been in it, they would have been hurt BUT children don't really go through the 'what ifs' they know they weren't in it, they know they are not hurt and like you say are more worried about their processions that could have been left in there while they were away from it.
Take care of yourself.0 -
Oh blimey, don't start thinking what else should have happened differently. As a mum you have to do what you think is right to do at the time. You can never blame yourself for that.
The kids will be fine (I would have taught the truck driver a few new words!!)“Listen earnestly to anything your children want to tell you, no matter what. If you don't listen eagerly to the little stuff when they are little, they won't tell you the big stuff when they are big, because to them all of it has always been big stuff.”0 -
The kids are fine now. I feel annoyed with myself for having the reaction I did. As a parent you go out of your way to ensure your kids see you calm, reasoned and balanced as much as possible. There was a lovely lady from one of the houses opposite who took the boys across to her front garden and gave them a drink and things to play with. They were both aware that the car was in an awful state, but were both very happy that their scooters were in one piece as we had taken those with us. They are now excited about us buying a new car and are arguing over what colour it will be.
Yes, but unlike adults kids have no conception of 'that could have killed us'!
its good that they don't - at least you wont have nightmares from the kids to contend with!
You could not help your reaction Marisco - and thanks to the 'lovely lady' your kids weren't too aware of it.
that is one less thing to worry about. now tick off the rest of them!
insurance is sorting out transport.
kids are ok and excited about new car (and not stressing about the old one).
you - well - that's a work in progress. time hun, it will heal very fast because you and your kids weren't hurt. in a few weeks it will be a distant memory and in time it will be 'remember when we went to the beach and our car got totalled'?0 -
Sounds horrible, and of course you are shocked - the "what ifs" are bound to run through your mind. Give yourself a break, it's not your fault you were upset by it, and not your fault that you didn't manage to turn to your children and say something calm and sensible immediately. 99% of mothers would've been in the exact same state!
I'm glad your boys are OK, and arguing about the new car instead of worrying about the old one!...much enquiry having been made concerning a gentleman, who had quitted a company where Johnson was, and no information being obtained; at last Johnson observed, that 'he did not care to speak ill of any man behind his back, but he believed the gentleman was an attorney'.0 -
A trip to the beach with my sons came very close to ending in disaster yesterday. We had parked up along the seafront at the end of a long row of cars. According to witnesses who saw us head off, the accident happened less than 10 minutes later. A pick up lorry with a hiab crane was speeding along the road. As it came near to my car the hiab, which had not been properly secured by the driver, swung out and smashed through it pushing it along the road into 2 parked cars and up onto a grass verge. The damage done was horrendous, the rear and side windows had been blown out, the front and back were completely crushed, the sunroof had caved in. We arrived back an hour later to see police, ambulance and blood emergency services all around. Whilst they were treating me for shock it was made clear that all I had lost was a metal box. Had we been in the car at the time of impact we would have been lucky to have survived. Sorry to bore you all with all this, I just needed to let it all out somewhere.
I'm sure I heard something on the traffic news about a mobile crane the other day. Did it make any online news sites we can have a look at?0 -
Glad you're all ok, Marisco. xx0
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Oh my goodness, what a terrible shock for you. ((Hugs))0
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