ELITE 11+ Everyone Loving It Trout Extraction

izzy65

rose28454 wrote: »

Well its all going wrong again here. Mum been in hospital for 4 weeks with a broken wrist and not seeing specialist about having plaster removed until 16.8. However they brought her home for a visit last week to see if she could come home and decided she could come home today. I was a bit dubious but my sister from abroad is home till 9.8 and despite my misgivings said she could cope. She also went on and on that it was Mums bday yesterday and it would be nice for her to be at home. So while I was away last week arrangements were made and even though I was dubious and spoke to the OT and ward sister she came home yesterday. However the care she has at home was not put in place till this evening due to hospital not telling social worker about change of date.
Anyway I went there yesterday morning to get a few things ready and had a complete meltdown. I actually called my oldest brother ( who i dont get on with at all) to ask for his help and support and he agreed that she needs to still be in care or hospital at least till the plaster is off ( ot suggested if she could not cope they would do this ). He was a bit off with me to start but I was in such a state crying he backed off and we had a good chat about Mum and he is with me that she either now needs live in help at night ( not me) or needs to go into care.
So I called the social worker who was quite annoyed they sent her home early without letting her know and when I explained she was not really fit to be there she said it happens all the time. I said I would see how she is today and call her to see if she can come by.
She is at risk and I cant be there all the time as I have other things to deal with at home. Am i being mean not letting her be at home?

Morning all, wet grey day here, Rose I agree with the others It is hard being the one making the right decisions but you know your doing it in your mums best interest, I think getting your brother onside is a good move, good luck with such a difficult time ((hugs)):A.

Enterprise_1701C

Thrifty_Sister wrote: »

Take care Zag and drive carefully. Theres an old Swedish (I think) proverb that goes something like :-

'Its better to lose a second of your life than your life in a second' :T

Same one I've heard - better to be late than dead on time.

MKS wrote: »

Hugs, rose. NO, you are not being mean. You are just being realistic.

Totally agree, it comes to the stage when people just can't cope. My step grandmother was in a home for the last few months of her life, but she was looked after and no longer stressed, she had nothing to worry about. Sometimes it is simply the better choice for the person concerned and their relatives.

rose28454

FloFlo wrote: »

So hard for you hun, very easy for siblings who aren't on the 'frontline' to back away and say do what you feel best. But they need to step up and help not just with everyday stuff but with decision making so that your mum isn't thinking it's all coming from you. If they live further away or don't have the time then that's a choice they have made and they need to be honest with your mum about it. Completely unfair for you to bear the brunt even if your mum has carers. Stand by only doing what you are comfortable with. Hope things get better. xxx

Just spoke to sis and Mum and she was up 4 times in the night to go to the loo and said she got in an out of bed alright with some help from sis. So think I am going to call the Social Worker now and ask if she can find somewhere for Mum at least till next week although my brother thinks we should ask for help till we can get new arrangements in place for night care. My sis will go mad but as my brother says she wont be here after Friday anyway.

clucky1977

Good morning all x

tigerwhite_2

WishI'dReadSooner wrote: »

Seeing the cannabis growing in Newport flower planters amused me. A few years ago some of the large beds in Newport were planted extremely well with the different coloured flowers spelling out very rude messages to the council. Disgruntled forced community service workers were said to blame.

Ha ha, i laughed at that one RN... revenge is a dish best served cold :rotfl:

Mrs_stinkface wrote: »

Could I please ask anyone who hasn't voted for Max to please take a moment and do so. The competition finishes tomorrow, he's in the lead at the mo but there's a doggy getting very close to biting him on the bum.:rotfl:

https://www.tabsite.com/contest_share.php?appid=317355118338012&aid=388267&tid=178167&spid=0&eid=50923

Thank you all very much x

Voted again from a friends *ahem* FB. it allowed another 9 times:T

clucky1977

Mrs_stinkface wrote: »

Could I please ask anyone who hasn't voted for Max to please take a moment and do so. The competition finishes tomorrow, he's in the lead at the mo but there's a doggy getting very close to biting him on the bum.:rotfl:

https://www.tabsite.com/contest_share.php?appid=317355118338012&aid=388267&tid=178167&spid=0&eid=50923

Thank you all very much x

Hiya,
Voted x

pk04

rose28454 wrote: »

Just spoke to sis and Mum and she was up 4 times in the night to go to the loo and said she got in an out of bed alright with some help from sis. So think I am going to call the Social Worker now and ask if she can find somewhere for Mum at least till next week although my brother thinks we should ask for help till we can get new arrangements in place for night care. My sis will go mad but as my brother says she wont be here after Friday anyway.

Sorry to be blunt but if your sis doesn't want her in a home then she needs to bl**dy well take care of her herself. I wonder if she'd feel the same if she had a whole week/month of interrupted sleep :cool:

emerald21

Mrs_stinkface wrote: »

Could I please ask anyone who hasn't voted for Max to please take a moment and do so. The competition finishes tomorrow, he's in the lead at the mo but there's a doggy getting very close to biting him on the bum.:rotfl:

https://www.tabsite.com/contest_share.php?appid=317355118338012&aid=388267&tid=178167&spid=0&eid=50923

Thank you all very much x

Done .................

FloFlo

rose28454 wrote: »

Just spoke to sis and Mum and she was up 4 times in the night to go to the loo and said she got in an out of bed alright with some help from sis. So think I am going to call the Social Worker now and ask if she can find somewhere for Mum at least till next week although my brother thinks we should ask for help till we can get new arrangements in place for night care. My sis will go mad but as my brother says she wont be here after Friday anyway.

If your sister isn't going to be there then she either stays, makes arrangements in her absence or puts up with the decision you and your brother make.

nikkilala_2

Morning Just a quickie to let you know Nannylala hasnt gone AWOL but her laptop has died! Normal service will resume as soon as I can get her out to get a new one, Shes not a happy bunny though:(