Not sure if this was a proposal??? Help!

cloverfan

Hi everyone. I've been with my boyfriend for 18 months. He is not a hearts and flowers kind of guy. He has only told me he loves me a handful of times but his actions say he does a hundred times a day. He always says he finds it hard talking about emotions. Tonight I was texting my friend and he asked what we were texting about. I told him what we were discussing. Then he said why don't you tell her we ae engaged, I laughed and said coz she would want to plan this that and the other. He then laughed and said she could plan my hair ( she's a hairdresser) but that was all the rest was up to us. Then I started talking about something else. It's only now that he's asleep that I thought back to it can't help thinking perhaps he was asking in his roundabout way and now I've blown my chance!!! Do you think it would be reading too much into it if I brought it up in conversation in the morning?

MarilynMonroe_2

Sounds like it to me! Ask him tomorrow if he was serious about being engaged.

cloverfan

I'll be so disappointed if he says no

MarilynMonroe_2

He might be disappointed now you didn't latch onto his comment more at the time though. x

purple.sarah

He did mention it in a vague way so I would not have been sure either if he was saying it would be nice one day hypothetically or actually asking. Don't worry, if he wants to spend the rest of his life with you he won't have changed his mind over a misunderstanding so you haven't blown your chance! Just ask him if he was serious. If you can't communicate about it as a couple maybe you're not ready for marriage.

MarilynMonroe_2

any news??

heartbreak_star

Yes! Tell us *fingers crossed*

HBS x

System

I think he was looking for the right reaction from you but hadn't quite got the bottle to ask you outright.

Ask him if he was serious.:)

Wickedkitten

If you need to ask if it is a proposal or not, then it probably isn't.

eschaton

If it was a proposal - it must rank as one of the worst ever. Certainly not a Carlsberg one....

SavingPennies_2

Sounds more like he was testing the water or just joking about.

Personally I think unless he specifically asked you to marry him and you specifically said yes then it's not a proposal, sorry.

To be honest it's probably best it wasnt as it would be a bit of a rubbish way to propose*, but on the plus side it sounds like marriage is on the cards anyway.


*yes I know i will prob get loads of criticism for saying that.