Good Luck to Everyone

The_Hurricane

duchy wrote: »

Where did I mention any of those things in my post ?

Those were the people I referred to in my original post as being in unhappy relationships.

Kayalana99

marisco wrote: »

I view things differently. Personally I don't think people can be happy as someone's partner unless they can be happy as a whole on their own. There is a lot to be said for being single, living your life individually and enjoying it without having to depend on others. You are also free of the pressures and expectations that are often part of being in a relationship. Taking your time to decide how you want your life to be, and whether you wish to share it with someone at some point in the future is a positive experience

As someone else said, everyone is differnt though. I was never happy living life as an individual and have always loved the family unit... I feel thier are pressures and expectations of being a parent but not for my relationship, we are both very laid back people and most of our problems were very early on in our relationship and on the arguments we do have are mainly my fault for being horomonal or/and way overtired and not thinking straight but are very few (I am pregnat with my 2nd fyi lol)

I may not have had years thinking 'what do I want to do' because basicly I have gone and done what I wanted to do..

Usally I would say that your entitled to your opinion though(which you are ) but I think I'm proof that your wrong..and I think its quite narrow minded to say people who havn't had the same experiences as you (i.e being single for a certain amount of time and having independance for more then others) can be any less happy.

Kayalana99

duchy wrote: »

Some people appear to row all the time - but do it because they both enjoy the drama ....and the making up to others who hate arguing it would be a disaster relationship!

Can't agree with this more! Had an elderdy couple though my till today at work and they just bickered the whole time on stupid things that didnt matter and I was just sat thier thinking how can you be with someone for 40 ish years and not even 'shop' together something you do every week without arguing but I guess its just they enjoy the drama!

One bit in particlar is when he was rolling his eyes at me and waiting for her to move out the way of the card machine when it was 'in reach' but same time in front of her he still could easily have put his card in so I just moved the machine to face him and he started doing it.... but its like he could of done it himself but choose to make a deal over nothing!?

As I said ...we are very laid back people THANK GOD