my babys routine is out the window how do I get it back??????

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liney wrote: »

Also, a dream feed where you dont wake the baby, but give them a top up before you go to bed might help - baby has strong sucking reflexs and stroking the mouth with a teat will mean s/he automatically sucks even when sleeping.

Really?? If my boy is asleep he is asleep, he will not take any milk, he is prone to falling alseep on his bottle if h e's not had enough nap time in the afternoon and he will NOT take his full feed at bedtime. This evening he went down on half his feed. Little ratbag!

I've tried stroking his chin, calling his name, taking him in the garden for air to his face, changing position but he will not take anything else.

I expect i'll be up at some point in the night with him.

I guess what works for one doesn't work for others.

Counting_Pennies_2

Dream feeds really do work.

I would change my sons nappy at 10pm and that would sufficiently wake him to drink a bottle but not too much to want to wake completely.

This might be a good alternative to the 4:30am wake up

poppyscorner

Thanks for all the responses,

Bedtime last night was OK however he was up at 4.30am he had a bottle and then would not settle back to sleep so a bit tired today understandably we are unable to catch up on sleep through the day as hubby is at work and I have the baby to look after as well as my four yr old ds1 he goes to nursery in the morning but baby is awake all morning so sleep then is out of the question.

Have spoken to HV this morning about it and she recommended one of those dream feeds mentioned in above feeds I have never heard of it but she says lots of people do these and they very often work so I will try this tonight and see how we get on with that !

Just to clarify something though I am not super strict on routine although it sounds that way from my first post I'm not my first son didnt really have a routine he was fed and changed on demand and fell into his own routine which we went along with. The baby (ds2) was born with his days and nights mixed up sleeping really well through the day and hardly at all through the night we were advised by midwife and HV totry and change this around so he had them the right way round he was born by emergency section so I was very very tired in the first few days after his birth this is why we brought routine in we didnt mind doing night feeds after all he cant help being hungry but have to admit it was lovely when he started sleeping through it was just trying to work out why the sudden change.

I dont completely blame MIL for the loss of the routine and feel it may well be coincidence but whatever I tell MIL about children she knows better and does things her way to try and prove me wrong tbh wish we hadnt gone out now as the party was rubbish anyway lol and it was good of MIL to have him but hey ho cant change past just work with baby to find a solution that suits us all.

Thanks again much appreciated

poppyscorner

get used to the grandmothers messing up your best laid plans,
my daughter gets away with murder at my mums "im her nanny...and thats what nannys do" apparently is enough of an excuse for my mother to override every rule ive spent DDs whole life sticking too...:mad: :mad:

I know exactly how you feel if I tell ds1 off at MIL house she will say dont tell him off all children do that she undermines me all of the time as far as he is concerned and he gets away with murder at her house she laughs when he is cheeky to her it drives me nuts:eek:

I have a niece my SIL had her when she was 16 they lived with MIL for a long time after her birth and you should see how she has turned out she wont eat she has terrible behaviours and she speaks to her mum like something she has trodden in what does the MIL say all kids are like that leave her alone. Sorry but I beg to differ she is an awful child and tbh I could not cope with her she is allowed to continue her behaviour supported by MIL no matter how her mum (SIL) tries to stop it.

Terrible but before I had kids with DH I warned him theywould not under any circumstances be allowed to turn out like his niece she has got away with too many things and has learned exactly how to get everyones attention and how to embarass her poor mum terribly so much so I think she is a bit scared to take her out anywhere her tantrums would put a 2yr old to shame.

Anyway all a bit off topic now just wanted you to know I know exactly how you feel:D