Can anyone recommend...?

grex80

Hi,

A mate (honest!) has asked if there's any good websites he can use to research how to have better sex with his partner as she is v. inexperienced, and it's really getting to him that they've only been together a matter of months and it's already getting stale.

He's not really able to buy books etc as she could find them and that may hurt her feelings etc - he's just looking for some tips, ideas and suggestions.

Any ideas guys?

Thanks.

paddy's_mum

No book, film, website or any such source is going to get him anywhere. The best teacher is a loving and considerate partner.

Does your mate have those attributes? If not, he's in the wrong relationship and the girl would be better off without a guy who seems to value her by her sexual performance alone!

Violet_Isle

The sex situation will only get worse if the communication is not right

Your mate has to talk to his partner - she might be a little ego bruised at first but with the right words at the right time who knows? she could be feeling pretty much the same. when one partner twigs things are a bit stale the other usually follows suit.

All couples go through this I'm sure. When I had a similar situation I bought

Hot Sex by Tracey Cox. £8.99

Its very thorough and explicit and designed for both men and women to read. I bought it for me and got to page 66. But hubby pinched it and finished the book. Needless to say, I don't really need to read the rest of it now he's finished the book.

I know you say he can't get a book, but why the hell not? I'm sure the GF would enjoy reading it too.

BTW I think if the communication bit isnt sorted now, it will lead to years of less than satisfactory sex - I know that for a reason, I was once shy of broaching the subject too....

tosca5

He sounds like he is not very experienced himself! :eek:

grex80

All fair comment guys, and I'll let him know about the book.

Yes, he is experienced but he's never had to be the "teacher" before, and thus isn't too sure on where to go from here.

Oldernotwiser

Stale, after a few months? You must be joking! I wonder what the girlfriend thinks about the situation; it doesn't sound like there's much future in this relationship. I hope she gets out of it quickly, before he starts suggesting orgies!

snowmaid

Perhaps he is the problem and not her? Some girls are just unable to 'fake' it!

zfrl

grex80 wrote: »

Yes, he is experienced but he's never had to be the "teacher" before, and thus isn't too sure on where to go from here.

So he has had lots of releationships? But he has still not got any ideas - sounds to me like he is the one with the problem!

TheWaltons_3

Poor girl... when you love someone and it is right... sex is amazing... and yeah, people go through their stale patch's ... like when your stitches are healing from a 9lb baby.... but :rotfl: if it's like this after a few months!!!

If a girl just doesn't wanna do it... she wont!! Perhaps they're both better off meeting someone like minded?

Also, what kind of serious future have they got when he is bragging to his mates how crap she is in bed?!

robnye

make sure he doesnt try reading the book at the same time as practising........ :rotfl:

grex80

He was asking me for advice as his relationship is otherwise very good with this girl - and personally I think he's being very understanding by not simply just walking away.

All i'm asking for is advice on how he can improve things, not judgement on the state of his relationship.