How do you decide whether to leave your partner?

paulineb_2

When you realise that you really arent happy and that feeling goes on for much longer than it should.

Vicky123

If your asking the question then that's the time to leave

Frith

zzzLazyDaisy wrote: »

When you miss them and they occupy your thoughts for the days/weeks/months you are apart.... and it becomes clear that this is not reciprocated in the same way.

When you feel like an optional bolt-on to their 'real life' that is happening elsewhere... without you...

Are you going out with my ex? :eek:

FBaby

When you know the love is gone because they have betrayed you in such a way that you've lost trust and respect and you know that nothing they could do could overturn this.

Saying that, it very much depends at which stage of the relationship you're in. If it is at the start, it could be when I just don't believe we are compatible, when I am fully committed, only the reason above could make me stop fighting for the relationship.

Dontknowanymore

Vicky123 wrote: »

If your asking the question then that's the time to leave

I was going to say the exact same thing.

claire16c

My friend had a couple of reasons when she left her husband:

1.she was counting days the days on a calendar until their counselling sessions finished so that she could feel as though they had tried, but really she knew it wasn't going to happen so was just waiting for the sessions to be over.

2. Someone remarked to her if their partner died they'd be absolutely heart broken, not want to face life without them etc. my friend realised she wouldn't not care, but that she definitely didn't feel like that

3. When she thought about the future anything like having kids with him made her feel sad/trapped not excited.

4. She dreaded coming home because of the arguments.

SunshineButterfly

What does your "gut" feeling tell you? Sometimes its not always clear, but sometimes our gut will tell us one thing and our heart will tell us another. I would follow my gut feeling.