Grrrrr!! Today I shall be mostly.......

notanewuser

........practising inward screaming.

We are up north meeting the newest member of DH's family. Saw them yesterday where they suggested going to a summer fayre near them today for breakfast (ie, early). We went off to see DH's other brother an hour away having been told to pass the message on, which I did. Got back to the hotel late (thanks to that hour long drive and a motorway diversion) and I set my alarm for 7:30am so that I could get showered etc and get everything packed up ready to go for breakfast.


Just had a call from the brother who suggested meeting for breakfast to day that he'd already discussed with everybody else while we were in the car yesterday afternoon meeting in the afternoon. Not one of the 5 other adults I spoke to about it thought they should mention it. :mad:

I hate setting an alarm at weekends, haven't had enough sleep (avoidable if other people had more than one brain cell between them) and have a 300 mile drive to do later.

What is wrong with these people??!!

System

I'll be inwardly screaming too!

For a different reason ... obviously.:)

CH27

I really don't know why you bother with them.
You've have several threads about them & still nothing changes.

I'm beginning to think you like the drama

notanewuser

CH27 wrote: »

I really don't know why you bother with them.
You've have several threads about them & still nothing changes.

I'm beginning to think you like the drama

I've just about had enough of it, to be honest. One brother + wife + 2 under 2s plus DH's parents came for a long weekend at the start of the month. They didn't bring a single nappy for either child and despite visiting the massive supermarket down the road for other things didn't buy any either. I didn't realise they'd left me with 2 nappies for DD until after they'd gone. :mad:

They recently announced their daughter's christening date in a couple of weeks. We have 4 other things on that day which can't be rescheduled. I'm not wasting any time trying to accommodate that too.

marisco_2

It was thoughtless of these family members to change plans and for not even one of them to think to advise you. If they were considerate people they would automatically have done this, so as to save you all from getting up early unnecessarily. They must be aware that you have a long tiring drive to do later today, with a young child.

I remember your tales of woe before about them from other threads. From now on I recommend that you see them on your terms only and put things in place to minimise the negative effect they have on you. Meeting up with family is meant to be a pleasurable experience. They just seem to cause you nothing but grief and angst.

pigpen

I hate visiting OH's family .. they supposedly have all these plans for stuff to do and then change their mind constantly which I can't deal with.. I need to dress children differently depending on where we are going.. you wouldn't wear the same stuff for going out for lunch as trawling round the farm and it just annoys me.. then they do the 'I'm coming, I'm not, she's coming, we'll all go... ' RAWR!!!!!

I loathe changing plans.. I have days out planned with military precision and then they want to do something completely random.

I totally understand where you are coming from.. it is selfish and thoughtless and you have every right to be annoyed by their lack of consideration.. and I'd tell them so..

And next time they visit.. remind them to bring nappies because you aren't able to provide for their children as well as your own!

I arrange with OH what we are doing and then just tell them they can do as they please we are doing 'this' and if they want to come along we are leaving at this time and they are welcome to come too.

And .. mini rant of my own.. sorry.. my biggest bug bear is them constantly wittering on about food... !!!!!!?? And how they spend all day cooking... WHY? You open oven fling in meat, chuck veg in a pan and in a bit it is cooked... it really isn't complex! I can set up a roast dinner in about 15 minutes for 10-14 people and they can't manage to do that for 4... then I get whinged at for not eating raw meat.. thanks but I like being alive!!

paulineb_2

notanewuser wrote: »

........practising inward screaming.

We are up north meeting the newest member of DH's family. Saw them yesterday where they suggested going to a summer fayre near them today for breakfast (ie, early). We went off to see DH's other brother an hour away having been told to pass the message on, which I did. Got back to the hotel late (thanks to that hour long drive and a motorway diversion) and I set my alarm for 7:30am so that I could get showered etc and get everything packed up ready to go for breakfast.


Just had a call from the brother who suggested meeting for breakfast to day that he'd already discussed with everybody else while we were in the car yesterday afternoon meeting in the afternoon. Not one of the 5 other adults I spoke to about it thought they should mention it. :mad:

I hate setting an alarm at weekends, haven't had enough sleep (avoidable if other people had more than one brain cell between them) and have a 300 mile drive to do later.

What is wrong with these people??!!

If these people dont treat you well why on earth are you travelling these distances to see them?

You have choices here. Stay seeing them and put up with more of this and then complain or start spending time with people who treat you a bit better.

securityguy

notanewuser wrote: »

I hate setting an alarm at weekends, haven't had enough sleep (avoidable if other people had more than one brain cell between them) and have a 300 mile drive to do later.

What is wrong with these people??!!

So why do you bother spending time with people who annoy you?

notanewuser

securityguy wrote: »

So why do you bother spending time with people who annoy you?

Unfortunately I'm related to them.

paulineb_2

notanewuser wrote: »

Unfortunately I'm related to them.

You can still choose when you do and dont see them.

Self preservation I would call that.

securityguy

notanewuser wrote: »

Unfortunately I'm related to them.

So what? If they annoy you sufficiently, don't spend time with you, or don't spend as much time with them. It's your choice.