Abusive relationships-now out of but !!!! !!!! !!!! !!!!!!! !!!!!!! !!!!!!!

marisco_2

There is no making sense of or being able to understand abuse. Some things that we go through in life have no justification or logical reason to them. A realisation that can be emotionally crippling to those who have gone through it. It took me many years of counselling after leaving an abusive relationship myself to come to terms with and accept that. I am so sorry for all you have been through and hope that you will be okay OP.

BitterAndTwisted

There was no abuse. I just asked a straight question. I don't know anything about your life, and I'm none the wiser now

duckeggblue

paulineb wrote: »

I think possibly someone was just asking why you had a bad day and its up to you if you want to elaborate.

As for someone not experiencing it, none of us know what people have been through really.

Its not easy. Ive been in two abusive relationships, not physically, mentally and it does scar you, but time is the only thing that helps you move forward.

I had bad day because I was manipulated by an abuser eg , me -adult-come round to visit me once a week and we can discuss our common financial issues, abuser - never turned up- " why didn't you remind me" ( spoke to him regularly, even last week and before,) then ," I forget, it's not personal .." Those who understand.. Laugh here.. Xx

paulineb_2

duckeggblue wrote: »

I had bad day because I was manipulated by an abuser eg , me -adult-come round to visit me once a week and we can discuss our common financial issues, abuser - never turned up- " why didn't you remind me" ( spoke to him regularly, even last week and before,) then , I forget, it's not personal .. Those who understand.. Laugh here..

Why do you have someone abusive in your life still? Is this the person you have recently separated from?

Id be keeping anyone at arms length if they were abusive to me.

duckeggblue

Please feelFree to ask mortgage questions

pigpen

duckeggblue wrote: »

Please feel. Free to ask mortgage questions

Will you pay my mortgage please??

(you never specified what type of questions )

marisco_2

Do you have any children? If not would it reduce a lot of stress and angst to hire a solicitor to deal with the financial side of your parting with your ex? Probably the less contact you have with him at this time the better for your state of mind.

BitterAndTwisted

Sounds like you'd be much better off starting a blog.

Own_My_Own

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

Sounds like you'd be much better off starting a blog.

Who is she hurting posting on here ?

delain

I have experienced an abusive relationship.. so you can't say I don't know what its like.

I would say though OP that you might do best to go have a nap or several coffees!

Your somewhat incoherent posts remind me of texts from a family member of mine when they've had two or three too many

We're here for support or whatever you need anyway, was just an idea