I don't know whom to talk to - I've lost a friend today

Ellie83

MrsDrink wrote: »

((hugs)) to you Ellie.


(When you're ready, and if it helps, I'd love to hear all your tales about your bun, and see some piccies x)

I will MrsDrink I have many a tale and I'll post them when I can write about her without crying like a baby. And I'll choose her best picture or she'll never forgive me and may come back and haunt me:rotfl:

Ellie83

Judi wrote: »

Ellie83 (((( hugs)))). I sobbed like a child when our chinchilla died. I know how you feel.:(

Oh I LOVE chinchillas although I never had one myself. I actually believe that crying all the tears I had in my body really helped me yesterday. I mean, my eyes and head hurt like hell, but today I feel like I am a bit less in pain, although I still have moments when crying is all I can do

Ellie83

chris_n_tj wrote: »

Sending you a hug Elle, we all know the heartache of losing a furkid. RIP little one xxx

People on the pet board are so nice. As I said in my first reply, this is so overwhelming given that people in RL have not all been half as kind as you all

Ellie83

aggypanthus wrote: »

My bunny was my first ever pet 5 yrs ago , when he died, I didnt expect to feel such sadness or miss the wee guy .
Very sorry for your loss xx

Rabbits are great pets. They're so clever, so full of life. My little Isolde was like a little person to me. I think once you've experienced life with a rabbit (and for that you have to make him/her part of your daily life) you realise that they're not just pet to be dumped at the end of the garden in a tiny hutch.

Ellie83

Froglet wrote: »

No animal is 'just' an animal.She has been a part of your family and loved and happy.Be proud that you treated her well and she had a good life.In time you will look back and smile,but for now..........



I'm Still Here

Friend, please don't mourn for me
I'm still here, though you don't see.
I'm right by your side each night and day
and within your heart I long to stay.

My body is gone but I'm always near.
I'm everything you feel, see or hear.
My spirit is free, but I'll never depart
as long as you keep me alive in your heart.

I'll never wander out of your sight-
I'm the brightest star on a summer night.
I'll never be beyond your reach-
I'm the warm moist sand when you're at the beach.

I'm the colorful leaves when fall comes around
and the pure white snow that blankets the ground.
I'm the beautiful flowers of which you're so fond,
The clear cool water in a quiet pond.

I'm the first bright blossom you'll see in the spring,
The first warm raindrop that April will bring.
I'm the first ray of light when the sun starts to shine,
and you'll see that the face in the moon is mine.

When you start thinking there's no one to love you,
you can talk to me through the Lord above you.
I'll whisper my answer through the leaves on the trees,
and you'll feel my presence in the soft summer breeze.

I'm the hot salty tears that flow when you weep
and the beautiful dreams that come while you sleep.
I'm the smile you see on a baby's face.
Just look for me, friend, I'm everyplace!

This is so beautiful... I'm going to print this and read it when I feel sad. Thanks so much for the poem, it is so true, death is but a part of the cycle of life. I can't agree with it being final and absolute.

Ellie83

walwin wrote: »

I'm so sorry for your loss and understand how much it hurts xx

Thank you walwin. I can't really understand why but knowing that so many fellow human beings have felt the same thing just make me feel better. To be completely honest, it restored my faith in mankind after the attitudes of some people in RL. I mean, I didn't even ask for sympathy or anything. I got asked why I was so upset and got laughed at, or told to just stop being so silly. I won't go further because now it's making me angry. As upsetting as it is to them, yes, I do love my pets just like I'd love a fellow human being!

RazWaz wrote: »

I used to keep hamsters, my parents stopped buying me new ones as when they died I was so devastated. You come to love an animal, and your love isn't restricted to the size of the creature, only your heart.

Take solace in knowing if you loved her this much, then you would have given her the best life possible. While it hurts to lose anyone, regardless of species, it will get better in the end. There is no point fighting the grief process, let it take it's course and remember, no matter how much it hurts now, the wonderful time you spent together will always be worth it in the end.

Oh I used to have hamster too! I had a little syrian dude who was so tame he'd watch tv with us in the evening. I cried and cried and cried when he died... Then we rescued 3 russian hamsters who, although not as tamed, were just so funny and adorable

Letting go and crying helped so much. I am already more resigned, although still quite sad. I believe there is a reason why we cry and get angry when sad. Why fight it? If anything, you have all shown me that it's people who don't grieve for their pets who are the ones to be pitied.

I do hope I gave Isolde a good life. She certainly livened up mine, the little devil :rotfl: My husband nicknamed her "Trouble"... And that tells you all there is to know about ehr

katy721 wrote: »

Took me a little while to get up the courage to read this thread and post, as I am still cut up about the loss of my dog in January and things like this really set me off.

It shows you are not alone though and I think most people on here will know exactly what you are going through and not think you silly at all!

Don't ever feel daft for loving, its the best gift you could give any furry (scaley, slimey, prickly etc) coming in to your life x

I understand what you feel Katy about reading about other people's grief. I hope it has not upset you too much and I would like to thank you for taking the time to read and reply.

And you're right, love is a gift. It hurts when they die but the love doesn't have to go away, we'll always have that and no one can take it from us. Ever. xxx

Ellie83

CC-Warrior wrote: »

Nothing to laugh about or ignore. Some of us prefer animals to children (I would much rather have a dog or rabbit than a child any day). It's just so painful when they have to go.x

Funnily enough, the people who were so nasty were very "child centric". Not that it's a bad thing to love your child, of course! But every time I'd dare complain about something, I was always told that "you have no idea how harder it is for us parents". Meh??? How does my having problems at work/feeling down/being annoyed at politicians/etc have anything have to do with your children? Why does the love I have for my pets got anything to do with your children? Do I have to understand that you can't know love if you don't have children???? As far I'm concerned, all loves are different. I don't love my husband the same way I love my pets, and I don't love my pets the same way I love my parents. Does that automatically follow that some love are more important than others? No, they're just different... If anything, I pity these people. They'll never get to experience all these types of love.

MrsDrink

Ellie83 wrote: »

She died so fast, poor little things. All I hope is that she knows I did everything I could, and that she wasn't in too much pain. I hope she knows I'll love and think about her. She's left behind 2 distraught humans and also a male companion (Tristan, of course ) I cried and cried and cried yesterday when I put her body next to him for him to know she was dead. Rabbits form very strong bond, especially when they are the alpha male and female of the warren. So when we put her down next to him and we saw him nudge her and lick her nose, as if asking her to wake up... I'm crying just writing that... Rabbits do mourn too

Poor Tristan. Give him lots of cuddles from me. x

Isolde was such a little monster She chewed her way through many expensive carpets, not to mention sofa covers and clothes Despite weighing a measly 3lbs, she was such an alpha female She was so domineering with her male companion who is twice her weight and size!

I'll never forget how she would just grunt at you and charge at you when she wasn't happy! She even scared the cat! So much so that we used to joke that Isolde was the real predator in the house! She even used to outwit us sometimes! She clearly thought she had the body of a lion: quite apt given that she was part lionhead

Lol she sounds like she had you all wrapped around her little paw (The way it should be! Ha! Slave to cats? Pah Cats have nothing on Buns!)

Ellie83 wrote: »

Exactly what my husband said Isolde was only 4, and she was so healthy just 2 days ago (or so she appeared). Sometimes I wonder why we make ourselves suffer so much by adopting pets...and then I look at the rescue animals where I volunteer and I understand that it's a "small" price to pay to give another soul a chance to have a good life.

I would rather feel the pain of losing a pet than never being able to feel the love for and from them. xx

Ellie83 wrote: »

I will MrsDrink I have many a tale and I'll post them when I can write about her without crying like a baby. And I'll choose her best picture or she'll never forgive me and may come back and haunt me:rotfl:

I look forward to it xx

Ellie83 wrote: »

Rabbits are great pets. They're so clever, so full of life. My little Isolde was like a little person to me. I think once you've experienced life with a rabbit (and for that you have to make him/her part of your daily life) you realise that they're not just pet to be dumped at the end of the garden in a tiny hutch.

Amen. Our little monkey/sausage (depending on whether he's being a sod or not lol) lives in doors with us and like you said is very much part of the family. It breaks my heart to hear of rabbits being bought for children when you know they are going to be neglected in a hutch.

Ellie83 wrote: »

I do hope I gave Isolde a good life. She certainly livened up mine, the little devil :rotfl: My husband nicknamed her "Trouble"... And that tells you all there is to know about ehr

I am sure you did. In fact I think the fact that she clearly ruled the roost is a testament to her good life She clearly had you all at her beck and call, catering to her every need

Dimey

I too have come to this thread late as it's hard for me to write having lost my little girl cat a few months ago after 16 years together. I really feel for you Ellie. Sorry.

The loss of my cat was worse for me than losing my family members. That's because she was so vulnerable and totally reliant on me. I could see in her eyes how she trusted me. I had to make decisions for her and I was responsible. She was mine and I was hers. We loved each other unconditionally. Still do.

I still have her brother, who I feel just the same about. We both miss her terribly. When I die I'll have my ashes mixed with my little boy & girl and we'll be together ever after then.

I know people think its crazy to feel so much for a pet friend but you can't help who you love and my cats have never hurt me. They and their predecessors have always been there for me.

So thank you Ellie for opening up how you feel and helping to make me feel better too.

paulineb_2

My family have lost loads of cats over the years, some to old age, some to cancer, my mum lost two last year one on the road and one to FIV. From the age of five I had a cat called Toby who ran away, he had been covered in paint by neighbours kids and never got over it. Then there was Cindy (who was a he but was named Cindy and too late to change it), he had pneumonia, was only 9. Buttons and Tiger, Tiger had cancer, so did my mums cats Rosie and Tiny. Her cat Boysie died of pancreatic cancer, her other big persian big man (we didnt name him ) he died of kidney failure, whiskey was the cat who was killed on the road and scooter had FIV. And Chelsea my mums cat who nipped out of a window and got lost in the snow, she was we think taken in by someone but was poisoned and died before we could get her back. Thats eleven. Plus old mr mog who was a stray walking the streets of Glasgow and someone who had taken him in for a night knew my mum took in stray cats, he died of old age, he was old and skinny but at least he had a good last few years. Taz who is a persian whose owners didnt want him, we got him scanned but they told us he wasnt theirs. And squeaky who is still with my mum, I found her at the side of the road. Taz and squeaky are still going strong.

And my cat shadow who died of pancreatic cancer 6 years ago, my gran also took in a cat and she died of old age.

I cried for weeks when shadow died, I also cried when we lost whiskey and scooter, I was in a terrible state when scooter died, he hung on as long as he could, but in the end he was too ill.

My mum is now at the never again stage, she says shes had her heart broken too many times, if an old stray turned up she would take it in but shes not going to go looking for any more.

All you can do in the tough times is think of the life they might have had if you hadnt taken them in.