Would you get married on a Monday?

Mojisola

LallyPops wrote: »

They have offered us a date (Monday 1st Sept) which means it's still in the summer holidays for our teacher friends

Check with your friends about this - this year our schools go back on Sept 3rd but the teachers will have to be in school before that. See if they know what Autumn Term 2014 dates will be.

ellay864

I agree with other comments that there's nothing wrong in booking a Monday wedding but just be prepared for some people not to be able to make it.
You have time to check with the most important people but others less close may not be able to make it. You are inviting them, they have a choice in whether to accept. It is your big day but will not necessarily be theirs; they may prefer to save annual leave for other occasions that are more important to them.
I always think every bride/groom are perfectly entitled to choose the wedding they want, regardless of what other people may think of that, as long as they accept that other people may then choose not to attend. Make your choice that suits you but don't get all bridezilla over it. People have plenty of time to think about what they can or can't do

jtr2803

We got married on a Wednesday so I think I can help with some thoughts

1) Have a think about the people you want to invite, aside from the ones that work in education are there any shift workers/self employed/part timers etc? Although our wedding was fairly small anyway when we went through our initial guest list we realised a few were self employed, others worked varied shifts and quite a few were part time. In essence, it wouldn't have mattered if we got married on a Wednesday or a Saturday, some people would have had to have booked leave anyway.

2) Bare in mind that some people will moan regardless, even close family members . For some guests your wedding will just be a massive inconvenience that they will feel duty bound to attend. God, I know that sounds awful but it happens in most wedding parties and I just found it easier to accept that people felt like that than trying to please everybody.

3) As others have said, be prepared for the fact that some people won't be able to attend the day. If someone gave me an invite now for a week day wedding before the end of March next year I just wouldn't be able to go. We love to travel and I have all bar 3 days completely booked up and those three days I will need for xmas and/or an emergency. BUT...I would do my best to get there for an evening reception so perhaps don't discard the idea of an evening celebration entirely.

4) The people that attend make the wedding, not the day or time. I've been to plenty of weekend wedding receptions where no !!!!!! dances and people start leaving at 10pm but I've also been to Sunday night receptions where the dance floor was packed until literally the guests were being shoved out of the door, depends on the personalities of those attending more than anything!

5) Not only will your venue be cheaper but you will find most other things will be too - cars, entertainment etc. We got some great deals for added extras because weekday weddings still aren't hugely popular, or if they are then it tends to be Fridays.

One other thing I will mention is that we had our evening reception separate to our actual wedding day. Our wedding, sit down meal and drinks reception was all on the Wednesday but as we flew out on honeymoon that night we had our reception in a pub a few weeks later. It's always an option if you are genuinely worried about people not going. For us it worked out really well and obviously having to put my dress on again was such a hardship :rotfl:

LallyPops

Hi all

Thanks for your thoughts on this.

Regarding the teacher training, yes, it dawned on me that this might be the case so we contacted those who it would affect and they've said they think it'll be ok to get the time off. One of them has young children anyhow and so would probably head to bed relatively early anyhow. I am seriously keeping my fingers crossed that all will be well - let's hope the headteachers are in good moods when the question is posed!

Those who are self employed have now been consulted and are fine, having said they wouldn't miss it. Of course, there are never any guarantees and who knows what the future holds but that's all looking promising so far. I do have other people to speak to but am hoping to do that tonight. I have my best friend from school to speak to so it's a biggy!

I appreciate a Monday isn't as convenient as a Saturday but we could never afford to have the wedding there on a weekend (Friday/Monday are the closest). Weekends command £7k for hire alone and that goes against my MSE principles, not to mention the fact I could see it sprial to a £20k wedding which we're not prepared to do! So, we are trying to find the best alternative and whilst I know that there are costs attached to coming to the wedding, they would be incurred regardless of whether it's a weekend or not. Plus we will be offering those who have no choice but to stay, first dibs on the accommodation, so at least they only have to pay their travel and one night's stay rather than two. I understand that travel can be more expensive on weekdays but by giving people nearly 14 months notice, hopefully they will be able to sort out trains at reduced costs if they buy in advance.

jtr2083 - Yes, I've realised whatever I do they'll be someone complaining somewhere! I actually work in events which is why I am relatively realistic about that! I know I can never please everyone and although will do my best to minimise inconvenience (I'm a bit OCD!), I appreciate that it will still draw some criticism whatever. It's not exactly a nice thought as you say, but from everyone I've spoken to seems inevitable! *sigh*

That's a great point about the suppliers - I think a few people mentioned that. It will (hopefully) present us with some choice too, as well as putting us in a better position to negotiate, so a definite plus on that one!

I guess the final point to add - and you may think me silly for this - but the 1st September is the closest realistic date we can hold our wedding, to my dad's birthday. I lost him very suddenly a few years ago from a heart attack and I kinda draw some comfort in feeling that in some way he does get to share our day, even if he isn't physically here for it. If the Monday were the 2nd Sept (Dad's birthday), I would totally go for it as it would make for the perfect package. Perhaps I have my answer?

You've all been really super responding to this thread. I really appreciate the time people have taken to respond. xxx

Poppy9

I work Mon-Friday and I would actually prefer a Monday wedding as I would have all weekend to make sure I had everything ready and travel if needed!!

Anyone working retail might appreciate a Monday wedding too as Saturday's can be a nightmare to get off.

I would also appreciate the sentiment of moneysaving on a wedding as I think it's obscene the thousands of pounds people waste on some weddings.

nearlyrich

I got married on a Monday....

Georgiegirl256

LallyPops wrote: »

Hi all

Thanks for your thoughts on this.

Regarding the teacher training, yes, it dawned on me that this might be the case so we contacted those who it would affect and they've said they think it'll be ok to get the time off. One of them has young children anyhow and so would probably head to bed relatively early anyhow. I am seriously keeping my fingers crossed that all will be well - let's hope the headteachers are in good moods when the question is posed!

Those who are self employed have now been consulted and are fine, having said they wouldn't miss it. Of course, there are never any guarantees and who knows what the future holds but that's all looking promising so far. I do have other people to speak to but am hoping to do that tonight. I have my best friend from school to speak to so it's a biggy!

I appreciate a Monday isn't as convenient as a Saturday but we could never afford to have the wedding there on a weekend (Friday/Monday are the closest). Weekends command £7k for hire alone and that goes against my MSE principles, not to mention the fact I could see it sprial to a £20k wedding which we're not prepared to do! So, we are trying to find the best alternative and whilst I know that there are costs attached to coming to the wedding, they would be incurred regardless of whether it's a weekend or not. Plus we will be offering those who have no choice but to stay, first dibs on the accommodation, so at least they only have to pay their travel and one night's stay rather than two. I understand that travel can be more expensive on weekdays but by giving people nearly 14 months notice, hopefully they will be able to sort out trains at reduced costs if they buy in advance.

jtr2083 - Yes, I've realised whatever I do they'll be someone complaining somewhere! I actually work in events which is why I am relatively realistic about that! I know I can never please everyone and although will do my best to minimise inconvenience (I'm a bit OCD!), I appreciate that it will still draw some criticism whatever. It's not exactly a nice thought as you say, but from everyone I've spoken to seems inevitable! *sigh*

That's a great point about the suppliers - I think a few people mentioned that. It will (hopefully) present us with some choice too, as well as putting us in a better position to negotiate, so a definite plus on that one!

I guess the final point to add - and you may think me silly for this - but the 1st September is the closest realistic date we can hold our wedding, to my dad's birthday. I lost him very suddenly a few years ago from a heart attack and I kinda draw some comfort in feeling that in some way he does get to share our day, even if he isn't physically here for it. If the Monday were the 2nd Sept (Dad's birthday), I would totally go for it as it would make for the perfect package. Perhaps I have my answer?

You've all been really super responding to this thread. I really appreciate the time people have taken to respond. xxx

Just want to say that I don't think your being silly at all, I think it's lovely wanting that date as its close to your Dad's birthday!

My Mam lost 2 of her brothers to heart attacks, and has had 2 herself If we'd have had a bigger Wedding, I would have had heart pins as favours. I love supporting the BHF anyway I can.

Georgiegirl256

Poppy9 wrote: »

Anyone working retail might appreciate a Monday wedding too as Saturday's can be a nightmare to get off.

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This is very true. I worked in retail for many years, and it was a nightmare most of the time to get a weekend off, or even an early finish on a Saturday.

Torry_Quine

JoolzS wrote: »

When did "Save the date" start happening? I guess I'm getting old because this seems to be yet another stupid thing added for weddings. If someone sent me a "Save the date" for something that was more than a year away I think my only reply would be "Send me an invite for the actual thing".

Me too.:rotfl::rotfl:



It would make no difference to me as my husband is a shift worker so as likely to be off on a Monday as a Saturday. He would only take a days holiday for someone very close and we always come home after a wedding so if beyond travelling distance we wouldn't go whatever day it was. We usually leave once the second half of the evening has started after the buffet as the noise usually gets too much for me.