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Real-life MMD: Should I ask to keep my tips?

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Money Moral Dilemma: Should I ask to keep my tips?
At the pub I work in, we're told not to keep our tips. Instead, they all go in a jar, not to be shared out among the staff, but to pay for a Christmas lunch for several under-privileged families. I'm happy to contribute to this, but feel I should have the option to support the scheme, as the tips I get are a reward for the good service I provide. Should I say something or am I being selfish?
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At the pub I work in, we're told not to keep our tips. Instead, they all go in a jar, not to be shared out among the staff, but to pay for a Christmas lunch for several under-privileged families. I'm happy to contribute to this, but feel I should have the option to support the scheme, as the tips I get are a reward for the good service I provide. Should I say something or am I being selfish?
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I don't intend for that tip to be charity money, but I'd rather this than a pooled fund for all staff. I'd just prefer places to be open about where the tips go.
On occasion I've also made a point of giving tips to kitchen staff, but as this is usually EXTRA money out of my pocket rather than a situation where I split my usual tip, I ensure that I ask exactly who the money goes to before I send it back, and always send it with a server rather than a manager in the hope that it reaches the right person. If I'd usually tip a server 10% of the total meal cost, and then decide to tip someone in the kitchen as well, the last thing I want is to be giving a 20% contribution to the manager, or to staff that have stood around and made no effort.
Apart from that, customers think they are giving a tip for good service but no staff are actually getting tips - that seems unfair. Do the recipients of the lunch realise that it is not the company's generosity but the staff's sacrifice providing their treat? It all seems a bit misleading.
Perhaps the staff should talk to the management and maybe come up with a fundraising idea a couple of times a year to raise the funds in a more transparent way. That sort of thing is good publicity in local media. Everybody wins!
But giving the staff reward to support charity is a nice touch. I think Management should match the tip collection and double the amount given to charity. Having a good initiative to support a good cause is great and everyone should give, not just from the staff.
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Pooling tips for charity is an interesting choice – it says something about the culture that management wants to foster among staff and perhaps even among customers (as we can’t assume from the post that customers don’t know where the tips go). If you don’t like it, you should certainly check what the feeling is among all the other waiting staff who give up their tips in the same way that you do. If they agree, then suggest a compromise. If they don’t, you may be better off working in another restaurant with a tipping policy that you agree with.