The OS Doorstep - a helpful and supportive thread in these tough times

kidcat

Nutty - give it a couple of weeks I bet they will be calling her back, our flower places get incredibly busy near Christmas. What with gifts for awkward people and flowers for graves, its one of the busiest times. We struggled to get a florist for our wedding just after Christmas and also for a funeral just before.

monnagran

Well, that was the weekend from hell. I wrote, printed, collated, stapled and delivered the church magazine in 48 hours flat. My own fault.
I will not procrastinate.
I will not procrastinate.
I will not pro...............

Saturday was the church Christmas fair, which I spent in the kichen doing bacon and sausage baps and jacket potatoes with various fillings. Rushed home to get changed and off to an 80th birthday bash.

Today I had to make all the puddings for our Drop-in tonight as I had been too busy up till then.
I will not procrastinate.
I will not procras........

Tomorrow I am going to try to restore some sort of order to my poor house.

Fuddle: Glad you are settling in. I don't know why Southerners have the reputation for being aloof and stand offish. I've never found that to be the case and I'm sure you won't either.
For goodness sake! Give yourself a break. You've only been there one tiny week and you've already climbed a mountain. Schools will sort themselves out and as for finding your way around, the thought of it will be far worse than the actual doing of it. Don't think about it, just do it.

Now to think about Christmas. NOOOOOOOOO!

x

kezlou

fuddle you'll be tomorow

Sorry to hear about the flower job less
Kidcat you've done the right thing, your health, sanity and, family come before anything else.I'm glad to hear dd is, slowly around.

Monogran busy weekend or, what.

What, lovely neighbours mrs l

Thanks sq we went to the reindeer parade, we went to a very quiet part of the crowd. Still busy but the group of people, none of whom we knew. Were fab, they encouraged all the children to go the front. None of, them got them annoyed when ds2 kept coming back to see us. Just said he didn't cope well with crowds. So they moved out the way for them. We, ended up going, fur dinner as ds1 and 2 couldnt handle the crowds. we then went and looked, at lights, we weren't bothered about the cola can so looked round the, gallery got done, traditional lollies and came home. We then sat and watched our first christmas film.

Ds2 kicked off before we left and really had,to tell him off, but it was a, good day

savingqueen

SDG, glad the scan is over and done with and more importantly the results were clear. Hope you and your DH feel better tomorrow. Thanks for the lego tip.

FairyP - you handled the poor woman on next door's step well the other day. I hope she was ok in the end. Did your neighbour give you any grief later? What with that and the horrible smell - what a day!

Monnagran - how do you do it??? 48 hours from blank page to delivery... you are both an inspiration and a crazy woman :rotfl:

I have had DS7 sobbing his heart out at bedtime about being worried about different school issues. He is top of the class, getting reading books from a higher year etc and some of his classmates have been laughing at him. He is sometimes given harder work and if he gets anything wrong they laugh. One boy seems to be the worst and he is in DS's groups for everything they are separated out for and he will sometimes want to play with him and sometimes is mean to him. DS says he can't always find someone to play with at lunch either. He also worries that he will get into trouble if he gets his work wrong even though this wouldn't happen (and hasn't.)

It is difficult to hear but doesn't suprise me, I hope I can get him into school ok tomorrow. I will have a brief word when I drop him off and ask if the Learning Mentor can see him and why and make an appointment to see the class teacher after school as well. It's times like this I just want to home school him. I know what it is like to be a sensitive soul as I am and DS9 is but at least I can support and guide them which I didn't have as a child. DS9 is far less anxious and more confident as he has got older, hoping that the same will apply to DS7 if we keep on working on issues like we did for his older brother.

sq

savingqueen

Glad you got to the reindeer parade Kez and stood with some friendly folk.

Good luck for tomorrow fuddle, concentrate on the girls who will be feeling nervous and excited probably and let them distract you from being anxious if you can. Deep slow breaths and calm talking to yourself and you will be fine. In a few weeks you will be whizzing about all over the place.... you are doing exactly what you wanted to..... keep on being brave and you will reap your rewards.

sq

kezlou

Know how you feel sq, I have with my two with school work.
Ds1 &ds2 ate both very clever.but struggle with they work and find it extremely hard to judge social situations.

Ds1is in the same position, hes in top class but get ridiculed for getting something wrong. This should hopefully be dealt with next week.
Ds2 on the other is very clever but can't get it down on paper. So a lot of the pupils have recently called, him thick and stupid. When in fact, the work is easy for him.

the best thing its just constantly reassurance him that everything will fine x

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When did Christmas become the hard and brassy sell that it has become? I've been annoyed with advertising on the TV for years now but last night I was absolutely sickened by the amount of 60% off if you buy it by tomorrow ads for a plethora of items all of an eye watering price and all sold with the word 'only' pushed out before the price. I want old fashioned christmas back, where you aren't expected to completely replace your home and furniture so gran can have a proper chair and that annoying lady on the conveyor belt doesn't have to touch and wrap all those expensive must haves we're constantly told we must have!!! Why have we let it happen? why do we constantly cave in to advertising pressures? Why don't we take back christmas and make it family again? I'm certain my childhood christmases were perfectly adequate and I know I never felt dissapointed with what I got for presents. What hope for the young of the future if we carry on this way, debt would be inevitable and constant!!! Lyn x.

mardatha

Hear Hear MrsL ! I don't watch tv but I can't help hearing it cos the RV watches all the soaps, and the ads seem to go on and on and on. That "only" does my head in ! Only 999, only 399 only only only. My own daughter is really caught up in this consumerism and this year I feel like we've sort of given up with xmas, it's not enjoyable it's not relaxing it's not about LOVE any more. If my grandkids all expect - and get- tvs, xboxes, ipads, iphones etc etc then what's the point of me sitting here knitting them gloves or making them wee santa sacks with knitted hedgehogs in? They'll laugh and discard them. I hate boody xmas LOL!

FairyPrincessk

Morning all,

Lyn, I completely agree. Our Christmas consists solely of useful, needed items and we think it is absolutely lovely, but all of the shouting about how I need to buy a reduced television that is too big for my front room and I NEED all of these other things is just obnoxious. I feel sorry for parents these days, the pressure must be enormous if your children are even slightly exposed to television and advertising.

My niece is getting a box of hand made dressing up clothes and my nephew is getting a voucher for his first pair of walking shoes. Their parents have very different values than us but they've always been very gracious about our gifts and I'm thankful for that. I wouldn't want to have to go through the situation with the books someone on here went through recently (can't remember if it was SQ or Kidcat or Kez).

Sometimes it seems as if 'doing your duty' to your family and your country amounts to buying things to stimulate the economy. It is sad.

SQ Nothing from my neighbour so that is a relief. Must admit I've been wary of stepping out the door or coming home for a few days now. I think I'm probably lucky that it is cold outside as in the summer he and his mates often sit out in the front drinking and that leads to far more interaction. He isn't violent, but many of his mates are so I understand why the neighbours are reluctant to get involved. I haven't seen the woman around, so I don't know what has happened to her.

Fuddle Glad you are settling in! You can also try vinegar on the cord, using Lyn's method. Good luck getting the girls settled in their new schools and preparing for the new job! Everything sounds truly fab, if not a tiny bit tiring!

Right, lots of work to do today. I've lazed about long enough, time to get to it!x

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I love REAL Christmas, not this huge push to relieve you of money, surely Christmas shouldn't be about fashion and aquisitiveness and keeping up with the perishing Joneses? I want something gentler where the being together and sharing nice food and laughing and enjoying family mean more than what's stashed under the tree and wether it's the latest all singing all dancing gadget that will be superceeded by a new model on January 1st when the advertising pressure will begin again for you to buy THAT one!!! Warm christmas, even christmas with only one present or none would be so much nicer for adults and littlies should be able to enjoy the holiday for what it is NOT for what they get alone! How to take it back is not clear though, I'll work on it, Lyn xxx.