Hamper as a wedding gift? SO RUDE!

SugarSpun

We had a brilliant wedding. It was a fantastic day and evening (in spite of the best efforts of the venue) with people we care deeply for and we're still married and still happy. What else do you need out of a wedding? Some guests brought no gifts, some gave gifts, some gave cash, all were equally welcome and equally appreciated because they are our friends and we love them. This bride has probably been reading too many wedding websites and I hope she'll learn one day that throwing a tantrum like a small child is not becoming and still doesn't get you what you want.

pinkduvetdiva

The cheeky grasping cow! :eek: IMO, I would never invite people to my wedding because they might give me a gift, I would invite them because I wanted them there. To be honest, given the attitude of the bride, I don't really see this marriage lasting an awfully long time.

lindsaygalaxy

Personally, I would have loved that hamper

jackyann

It would seem to me fairly universal good manners to say thank you properly, even if you thought the gift odd. You'd also think it a common situation in a country with a diverse population, as one becomes aware of others' customs.
I have known weddings where cash was the tradition, including the "pinning notes on the bride's dress" (which I think is Greek?). It was explained in the invitation so no-one was surprised or offended.
I was told, as a teenager about the Breton custom (then almost defunct) that the family & community paid for the wedding. This meant they felt free to criticize & comment on how the bride's parents had done everything!

floss2

elisebutt65 wrote: »

There was another Article I read, (possibly the Metro) where the night before, they all had a Pre-wedding dinner and the allegedly gluten intolerant bride stuffed her face with pasta etc.

If someone with food intolerances/allergies speaks in advance to the chef, wheat & gluten free pasta can be made available. My SiL did this with the Italian restaurant where we had our pre-wedding supper, and she enjoyed salmon tagliatelle with several other guests.

I think the main issue with this wedding is that the bride & groom were obviously expecting a traditional European attitude to gift-giving, rather than the more relaxed attitude to gifts that there is now.

Personally we'd have loved that hamper - and my DH would have adored it!

OpDawn2

What a laugh that hamper is. Although it maybe an american thing to expect something, this is such a throw away present that it is rather embarassing.

Getting this would tell me that the person was really more of an acquaintance than a friend. But then again, maybe this bridezilla invited 300 people and is a bit cranky in the post-marital financial pinch.