Hamper as a wedding gift? SO RUDE!

Lagoon

That's terrible! How rude! The friend clearly put thought into that gift, and the bride should be grateful. Not just grateful to receive a gift at all, but by the sounds of it grateful that anyone wanted to be there to share the day with such a selfish person!

We asked for money at our wedding, because we couldn't have otherwise afforded a honeymoon. People were very generous. Many gave money as requested, and we were able to have a good time on our honeymoon. Some gave gifts, which we really appreciated. We received a bag of gummy sweets from one guest, and they were lovely to share together on the night after our wedding. We also got some hanging ornaments with quotes, and of course some photo frames as well as well as other thoughtful gifts.

On the other hand, some guests didn't give us any gift, and that was fine. They took time to come to our wedding and be a part of our celebration - however much anyone could have given us, their presence was still the most valuable gift. I can't imagine inviting people just to get money off them, or complaining that what they gave wasn't enough. The guest must have felt so hurt.

sheeppappar

Jeepers!! how nice of someone to spend the time thinking of that gift and how rude of the bride! awful !

elisebutt65

There was another Article I read, (possibly the Metro) where the night before, they all had a Pre-wedding dinner and the allegedly gluten intolerant bride stuffed her face with pasta etc.

Lagoon

elisebutt65 wrote: »

There was another Article I read, (possibly the Metro) where the night before, they all had a Pre-wedding dinner and the allegedly gluten intolerant bride stuffed her face with pasta etc.

I did go to a wedding fairly recently where one family of guests were complaining at the wait for the meal, because their child needed gluten-free food and nothing else was available. The bar offered chocolate and crisps free of charge to the guests, who rudely pointed out that neither would be gluten-free. Their child was very well-behaved throughout the 'ordeal' as they stormed all over the hotel kicking up a fuss about the lack of options accommodating their child's dietary requirements.

Once the meal began, the child's mother then proceeded to examine the favours (a box of chocolates), hand them to her child and then ask everyone else on the table if they would donate theirs because her son would love them and 'doesn't seem to want his meal'. He sat and worked his way through five or six (fairly large) favour boxes, much to the surprise of myself and OH who'd witnessed the 'traumatic' experience an hour earlier.

sulphate

As somebody who is gluten free (not by choice - coeliac disease) it irritates me immensely when people claim to be coeliac/GF and then change their minds later. It sends out the wrong message to people who often think it's a "fad", coeliac isn't very well known as it is. At my wedding everyone with a dietary requirement was catered for.

Back to the topic...

I was grateful for every present we received at our wedding and we explicitly did not want people buying us things they couldn't afford but felt like they had to.

I would have loved that hamper, if I couldn't eat the things that were in it, my husband would have been delighted. No biggie.

As for....

Weddings are to make money for your future... not to pay for peoples meals. Do more research.

:eek::eek::eek:

susan42

I was brought up to say thank you for a gift whether it suited or not , as my mum told me its the thought that counts

I was invited to a wedding once and you were expected to buy something from the list ' the cheapest thing was an all singing dancing washing machine'
£500 + I declined the invite, and enclosed a cheque. The wedding was 200 mile away so with accommodation , fuel and loss of work it would have cost me too much to go.

browneyedbazzi

As a Canadian I feel a need to say - the wedding was in Canada but neither bride is Canadian. I can't believe how rude she was/is and I wouldn't dream of treating a guest in the way she has! I've never heard the preposterous idea that weddings are 'about making money for your future' before and that certainly isn't Canadian tradition. It's much more of a Canadian custom to accept whatever you are given with thanks.

Is there an award for most ignorant, rude, self centred and b*tchy bride? If so I think I know who the winner should be!

duchy

Sorry Bazzi-Didn't mean to offend you.
My point was that poster was talking about American customs and I was pointing out the wedding wasn't American anyway. Definitely didn't mean to imply these two ill-mannered women were any reflection upon their adopted homeland.

browneyedbazzi wrote: »

As a Canadian I feel a need to say - the wedding was in Canada but neither bride is Canadian. I can't believe how rude she was/is and I wouldn't dream of treating a guest in the way she has! I've never heard the preposterous idea that weddings are 'about making money for your future' before and that certainly isn't Canadian tradition. It's much more of a Canadian custom to accept whatever you are given with thanks.

Is there an award for most ignorant, rude, self centred and b*tchy bride? If so I think I know who the winner should be!

browneyedbazzi

duchy wrote: »

Sorry Bazzi-Didn't mean to offend you.
My point was that poster was talking about American customs and I was pointing out the wedding wasn't American anyway. Definitely didn't mean to imply these two ill-mannered women were any reflection upon their adopted homeland.

No worries, your comment didn't offend me and it was a fair point....we do get annoyed at people assuming our traditions/customs/culture are the same as our neighbours to the south because there are quite a few differences!

gayleygoo

What a terrible attitude - it certainly should not be up to the guest to cover the cost of their attendance, what if the bride chooses a very fancy event which costs £1000 or more per head? Surely it's upto the happy couple how their day is planned, and how much they are prepared to spend!

If I'm ever lucky enough to have a wedding it will be to throw a party for my friends to come and share in our celebration, and I won't expect anything from them in return. I have heard that lots of people do give envelopes of money at weddings, but this is probably done by people with the money to spare. I think the hamper was an lovely idea, but the bride seems to care much more about money than thoughtfulness. Good luck with that marriage :rotfl: