Naughty Two Year Old

mummy86_2

Hi,

I have a very naughty two year old who keeps screaming these loud ear piercing screams that rattle your head and make you dizzy. He's doing them for NO reason at all like every few mins he will just scream -its driving me crazy!!!! People in my building are starting to think the worst! We try ignoring him, putting our hands over our ears and saying owww your hurting mummies ears. Nothings working, Any advice to make him stop would be great!

mummy86_2

Can i aslo say that his attitude is really bad and he's started hitting the cat and tearing up his books

chirpychick

Are you sure he isn't in pain for any reason? Tummy ache? reflux? urine infection?

mummy86_2

He's def not in pain he laughs when he screams!

Kayalana99

First thought as well...perhaps he is uncomtforable which is why he is doing it? I.e as above again urine infection?

Seems quite strange to be doing it for NO reason whatsoever...

Edit: So you think the reason is just to be naughty? Laughing whilst doing something that he/she knows is annoying you? Pushing boundries?

You write like he does this constantly but is it constant? I.e does he not do it when something is distracting him? Eating? Playing? Etc?

tesuhoha

He probably thinks it fun to make you put your hands over your ears or say you are hurting mummy's ears. Try playing a game with him where he makes you do actions, like mummy ears, (you put your hands to your ears) mummy head (hands on head), mummy floor (you put your hands on the floor) mummy make a noise, all kinds of actions. At the same time totally blank any screeches. The game will be such fun he will forget the screaming.

Molly41

Ok the screams I would ignore but the hitting of the cat and destructive behaviour needs tackling now.

What is your response to his hitting of the cat?

BitterAndTwisted

More importantly, what is the cat's reaction to being hit? He's not going to persist with this behaviour for long after he gets mauled by it. Best have some Savlon and sticking plasters handy. And a lecture about not hurting lest he gets hurt again.

To be honest, there are very few two year olds who are consciously "naughty". At that age they have no concept of what that might be. Although they understand quite well the need for attention and how to get it from you.

As for the screaming, I'd be tempted to withdraw interaction with him and ignore it. If it doesn't get the results he wants he'll stop doing it.

I'd withdraw free access to the books and only let him use them when you are reading to/with him until "he's big enough" to be trusted with them.

ValHaller

mummy86 wrote: »

We try ignoring him, putting our hands over our ears and saying owww your hurting mummies ears. Nothings working,

Has it occurred to you that putting your hands over your ears and saying "owww you're hurting mummy's ears" is not actually ignoring him but giving him a reaction?

Kayalana99

mummy86 wrote: »

We try ignoring him, putting our hands over our ears and saying owww your hurting mummies ears. Nothings working, Any advice to make him stop would be great!

Wish people would stop commenting JUST on the part they don't agree with. OP has tried 'putting hands over ears and saying they hurt' to see if it made a differnce and obvouisly it hasn't so she won't be doing it again...it was worth a shot.

She's going to try anything she can think of obvoiusly as this is very stressful for her...and as you can see the 'ignoring him' and 'putting hands over her ears' are two differnernt things shes tried...not obvouisly done at the same time...God.

System

The little mite.... he's playing you!

Ignore him, turn your back on him (if its safe to do so) and don't let him see the stress on your face when he screams.

My eldest used to bang his head off the floor when he couldn't get his own way. Reasoning with a toddler wasn't much use and so I just let him get on with it. He stopped when he saw I wasn't going to give him the reaction he wanted. Within a few minutes I was able to divert his attention to something else. He soon grew out of it.