Chain broken down after exchange

Cissi

Flugelhorn wrote: »

I am curious as to why couple 3 went ahead with the exchange while they were still waiting for the results of many hospital tests at an appointment - you might think they had understandably more important things on their minds and it would have been better for all in the long run if they had not exxhanged at all ....

They may not have had any idea until very recently. My father passed away suddenly - as far as anyone knew he was healthy although he had had "mystery pains" (back, joints) for a while, for which his GP referred him to a pain clinic. None of the tests he underwent showed anything seriously wrong, but after he died suddenly (of a blood clot) the autopsy revealed that he had end-stage lymphoma - a cancer that can be notoriously difficult to diagnose if no obvious lumps are present. If his GP had been more on the ball he might have been given a diagnosis, and at the stage he was at, this would have been for a few months, max. As devastating as it was for us, with hindsight we're grateful that the suddenness of his death meant that he didn't have to suffer through months of treatment, deterioration and pain.

I know someone else who first realised that something was wrong in November, was given weeks to live and went downhill incredibly rapidly. He died just before Christmas, leaving his family shell-shocked. So it is possible to get a sudden diagnosis of only months to live when you hadn't realised how serious your condition was.

Flugelhorn

Cissi wrote: »

They may not have had any idea until very recently. My father passed away suddenly - as far as anyone knew he was healthy although he had had "mystery pains" (back, joints) for a while, for which his GP referred him to a pain clinic. None of the tests he underwent showed anything seriously wrong, but after he died suddenly (of a blood clot) the autopsy revealed that he had end-stage lymphoma - a cancer that can be notoriously difficult to diagnose if no obvious lumps are present. If his GP had been more on the ball he might have been given a diagnosis, and at the stage he was at, this would have been for a few months, max. As devastating as it was for us, with hindsight we're grateful that the suddenness of his death meant that he didn't have to suffer through months of treatment, deterioration and pain.

I know someone else who first realised that something was wrong in November, was given weeks to live and went downhill incredibly rapidly. He died just before Christmas, leaving his family shell-shocked. So it is possible to get a sudden diagnosis of only months to live when you hadn't realised how serious your condition was.

Yes that does happen - I am a GP so do see that sort of thing from time to time. I also see people going to hospital for lots and lots of tests and they are on tenterhooks until they get the results. Suppose I sort of admire a couple who could get on with exchanging contracts with all that going on - they tend to be in the minority.

Cissi

Flugelhorn wrote: »

Yes that does happen - I am a GP so do see that sort of thing from time to time. I also see people going to hospital for lots and lots of tests and they are on tenterhooks until they get the results. Suppose I sort of admire a couple who could get on with exchanging contracts with all that going on - they tend to be in the minority.

But my point is that they may not even have had any of that going on! My Dad was seeing someone for his back/joint pain but was otherwise leading a normal, active life and had no idea that he was seriously ill. When he suddenly dropped dead it turned out that he had metastases in all major organs and if he hadn't died of a massive blood clot then he WOULD only have had months to live in any case - but nobody was aware of this. The regular blood tests etc that he was having as part of his pain management trial showed nothing seriously wrong. He was actually taking part in a drug trial for pain management so was fairly closely monitored - yet nobody spotted that he had cancer until the autopsy! He and my mum could easily have been in the process of selling their house etc. It does happen.

Jaff.

Just to update this for anyone in a similar situation in the future. I don't have a right to claim for damages. So no compensation.

Losses are being calculated and I will get that back

ey143

Jaff,
Having read this whole saga, I'm just curious:

1. Did you establish whether the lady had died i.e. was/is she truly ill?
2. Did you recover your costs in the end?