What would you do?

vik6525

Oh and hes fine btw... hes 7 and a half now... no problems from the pill (or me smoking and drinking :eek: :eek: :eek: , oh dont shout, i didnt know)
Though he is ginger.....

shelly

Tiggy23 wrote: »

or to word it differently.... upto 12 weeks is the most likey time u will miscarry....

I am still amazed how many women tell friends and family they are expecting before 12 weeks is up. I told everyone the first time I was expecting but then had to tell them all it wasn't to be. The second time I told no-one and only told my parents and a few close female friends when it wasn't to be again.

shelly

vik6525 wrote: »

Though he is ginger.....

that made me :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

Curious_George_2

shelly wrote: »

I am still amazed how many women tell friends and family they are expecting before 12 weeks is up. I told everyone the first time I was expecting but then had to tell them all it wasn't to be. The second time I told no-one and only told my parents and a few close female friends when it wasn't to be again.

I only told people that i would have told if i had a miscarriage anyway, so i didnt really see the difference...
plus i would have had to 'dissapear' for weeks to avoid everyone if i hadnt told... its quite obvious when im pregnant cos i sleep for the first 10 weeks!

Spendless

Curious_George wrote: »

I only told people that i would have told if i had a miscarriage anyway, so i didnt really see the difference...!

When we ended up terminating my first pregnancy cos the baby wasn't going to survive we had done the same. What we hadn't thought about was that these people told people, who told people and so on. On DH stag night, an old workmate of his greeted him with the words "how's your baby, sleeping thru the night yet". (baby had he lived would have been 3 months old) silence fell, DH had to explain and the bloke must have felt awful. After this we didn't tell people about me being pregnant till a scan had confirmed everything was ok.

shelly

Curious_George wrote: »

I only told people that i would have told if i had a miscarriage anyway, so i didnt really see the difference...

From personal experience I found there is a difference between telling everyone or no-one.

I found it much harder to tell people of my miscarriage the first time around as we had all been getting excited, talking about decorating a nursery etc etc. With the second one no-one was excited as no-one knew so it was easier to tell them.

Curious_George_2

I understand, but i only told family and very close friends and these are the people I would have told if id lost the baby...
we asked them not to say anything just yet when we gave them the news so if they did tell other people then we would have found out and i would have felt justified in giving them a bo!!ocking for adding to my grief....

and sadly as i can see you two have a loss in common and are agreeing with each other about not telling at all im guessing i would be a little more wary with any subsequent pregnancy, but as ive never miscarried this was my logic at the time,