Good Lazy Parenting

CharlieRabbit01

Does your partner not help with the chores?

Person_one

shegirl wrote: »

Anyone else find this sad?

I do think its a real shame that they aren't allowed bath toys, little kids have so much fun in the bath when they've got a good assortment and can really stretch their imaginations. It takes all of about 2 minutes to rinse them off with the shower head and stick them on a towel to drip dry.

Timesaving is good, laziness is bad, don't get them confused!

kingfisherblue

I have to admit that my 15 year old son, who has special needs, still enjoys his bath toys . A quick way to clean them is to bung them all in the shower, spray some disinfectant on them, and come back in ten minutes to shower them off - my son helps with the last part

CharlieRabbit01

Person_one wrote: »

I do think its a real shame that they aren't allowed bath toys, little kids have so much fun in the bath when they've got a good assortment and can really stretch their imaginations. It takes all of about 2 minutes to rinse them off with the shower head and stick them on a towel to drip dry.

Timesaving is good, laziness is bad, don't get them confused!

my mum used to keep our toys in a machine washable netted bag - she'd rinse them with the shower and stick them in the netted back which she'd machine wash every so often.

Tea-and-Cake_3

Person_one wrote: »

I do think its a real shame that they aren't allowed bath toys, little kids have so much fun in the bath when they've got a good assortment and can really stretch their imaginations. It takes all of about 2 minutes to rinse them off with the shower head and stick them on a towel to drip dry.

Timesaving is good, laziness is bad, don't get them confused!

My children never want to come out of the bath....they make mermaid castles with the bubbles, boats with the bottles/sponges, theirs hands are little fish jumping around in the water, they try to wash their own hair, splash about. There is nothing sad about it.

I was in a restaurant with a friend recently with her husband and their one child (aged 3). My 3 children all sat nicely, ate all their food and really enjoyed the experience. My friend and her husband struggled with their child, they came armed with a bag full of toys, none of which were enough to persuade the child to sit and eat his food, he'd been given (carefully prepared) snacks all morning so his food went uneaten and his parents were so stressed out. I felt that my attitude of no toys at the table (or in the bath) allows my children to properly enjoy experiences without the distraction of toys and learn how to engage with people they are eating with.

Tiddlywinks

Tea-and-Cake wrote: »

..... I felt that my attitude of no toys at the table (or in the bath) allows my children to properly enjoy experiences without the distraction of toys and learn how to engage with people they are eating with.

Toys at the table and toys in the bath are entirely different... I'm sad for you if you can't see that.

If your children are such a chore (washing up bath toys is too time consuming???) then why did you have three of them so close together?

shegirl

Tiddlywinks wrote: »

Toys at the table and toys in the bath are entirely different... I'm sad for you if you can't see that.

If your children are such a chore (washing up bath toys is too time consuming???) then why did you have three of them so close together?

I was going to say the same re toys.I also find it interesting that it's gone from laziness to 'well,my kids are better behaved than xx because I have these rules'

Btw,I wouldn't feed my child a plate of cauliflower with cheese sprinkled on top to save doing more dishes etc.I don't see food being something to be lazy with

Person_one

Tea-and-Cake wrote: »

My children never want to come out of the bath....they make mermaid castles with the bubbles, boats with the bottles/sponges, theirs hands are little fish jumping around in the water, they try to wash their own hair, splash about. There is nothing sad about it.

I was in a restaurant with a friend recently with her husband and their one child (aged 3). My 3 children all sat nicely, ate all their food and really enjoyed the experience. My friend and her husband struggled with their child, they came armed with a bag full of toys, none of which were enough to persuade the child to sit and eat his food, he'd been given (carefully prepared) snacks all morning so his food went uneaten and his parents were so stressed out. I felt that my attitude of no toys at the table (or in the bath) allows my children to properly enjoy experiences without the distraction of toys and learn how to engage with people they are eating with.

I think you're making a connection there where none exists.

Playing for hours happily in the bath doesn't mean a child will be incapable of sitting in a restaurant without a load of toys! They are completely different scenarios.

Is that the real reason you don't let them have bath toys then? Not what you said earlier about not being bothered to wash them?

Tea-and-Cake_3

shegirl wrote: »

I was going to say the same re toys.I also find it interesting that it's gone from laziness to 'well,my kids are better behaved than xx because I have these rules'

Btw,I wouldn't feed my child a plate of cauliflower with cheese sprinkled on top to save doing more dishes etc.I don't see food being something to be lazy with

I am not expecting you to do a U-turn with your opinion or admit you were wrong but I honestly find it strange that anyone would critisise cauliflower and cheese (and whatever else I put on the plate and follow it up with) as being lazy with food. As someone else said opening a tin of spaghetti hoops is being lazy with food. Also lots of toys does not make a more rounded, capable, kind, successful human being....time with a parent does!

Also, I am not judgemental towards anyone's parenting who is raising healthy happy children, there are many ways to do this. I am simply defending the choices I make as I am happy with them. I wasn't saying my friends were wrong and that my way was better....just easier and less stressful.

Tea-and-Cake_3

Person_one wrote: »

I think you're making a connection there where none exists.

Playing for hours happily in the bath doesn't mean a child will be incapable of sitting in a restaurant without a load of toys! They are completely different scenarios.

Is that the real reason you don't let them have bath toys then? Not what you said earlier about not being bothered to wash them?

No, I don't want to have to wash them, or in fact move them about when I'm cleaning the bath (I am not actually lazy I do clean the bath! The term lazy was used tongue in cheek, unfortunately some people on here seem to be very literal). However I brought in another example of where I wouldn't bring toys into a scenario (as that would involve packing them up at both ends - the good behaviour is a happy surprise) as I am feeling defensive now....strange thread that this has become!