I amm pregnant - i need advice on ESA

franklally

MoreRosey wrote: »

I assume all of you understand english but then some of your replies suggest that you cannot read properly. I will repeat (ask someone to help you if you cannot read english). All I am asking if there will be any more benefit when my child is born? What is wrong with asking? And i am also saying that mothers should get some support finding work? What is wrong with that?Single mothers or not single mothers at home, we all go through hardships. You may think just because my husband works its all hunky dorey, well no. We still have the rent to pay, plus council tax, plus bills. I am really disappointed at some of your comments. The discussion just started about asking what benefits are out there for pregnant women and I am made a point about Mothers should get support looking for work - that is all. With regards to affording childcare, well my daughter starts her nursery in September and then reception, infant school so I would not need to pay for her childcare. As for my little one on they way - well I hope to work after she or he is 6 months/1 year. Many single women get lots of support and and have opportunities to get work programmes with help of childcare and married women should get the same opportunities too.

ciao

I thought some of the responses answered your question ....

pinkypoopydoo

MoreRosey wrote: »

Many single women get lots of support and and have opportunities to get work programmes with help of childcare and married women should get the same opportunities too.

ciao

Having been both a married mother and a single mother, I can assure you that the opportunities & support are not greater for a single mother - the only difference is, as a single mother, with a single income, there is sometimes a higher amount of benefit available, to bring household income up slightly, something that is more often than not, not required when there is a husband in the picture, as the household income is generally higher if there is a partner working. Married women (again in general) already have greater choice and freedom, and are generally presented with more flexibility around working hours (when I was with my ex-husband, he worked during the day, I worked evenings so we didn't have to pay for childcare) than single mothers who will find themselves solely reliant on childcare when they go back to work.

Married mothers are not ignored or not given opportunities.

StormyWeather_2

If you need help and advice with going back to work you could try looking at these:

http://www.womenlikeus.org.uk/ - this is for the London area, if you aren't in London they might have a list of contacts for other areas of the country.

There's also this website that has advice and vacancies for mums:

http://www.workingmums.co.uk/

You have the support of a partner. Depending on the hours he works you could organise it so that your childcare costs are minimised, one starts work late and drops off, the other starts early and finishes early and picks up. If you get working tax credits you could also be eligible for help with childcare costs.

sofaspud1234

Before we decided to have children we had a conversation about whether we could afford to have them. If we had not been in a position to afford them we would have put it off for a few years until we were financially stable.
You ask: what benefits are out there for pregnant women
If you are asking that question maybe you should have gone back to work for a few years before having more children as you obviously cannot afford them.

claire16c

MoreRosey wrote: »

. With regards to affording childcare, well my daughter starts her nursery in September and then reception, infant school so I would not need to pay for her childcare. As for my little one on they way - well I hope to work after she or he is 6 months/1 year.

ciao

How is that any different than if you had worked for the past 3 years?

You'd have been paying childcare for 1 child which you're saying you couldn't afford.

But that would be the same as if you go back to work 6 months after the birth and work in school hours??

notanewuser

MoreRosey wrote: »

I assume all of you understand english but then some of your replies suggest that you cannot read properly. I will repeat (ask someone to help you if you cannot read english). All I am asking if there will be any more benefit when my child is born? What is wrong with asking? And i am also saying that mothers should get some support finding work? What is wrong with that?Single mothers or not single mothers at home, we all go through hardships. You may think just because my husband works its all hunky dorey, well no. We still have the rent to pay, plus council tax, plus bills. I am really disappointed at some of your comments. The discussion just started about asking what benefits are out there for pregnant women and I am made a point about Mothers should get support looking for work - that is all. With regards to affording childcare, well my daughter starts her nursery in September and then reception, infant school so I would not need to pay for her childcare. As for my little one on they way - well I hope to work after she or he is 6 months/1 year. Many single women get lots of support and and have opportunities to get work programmes with help of childcare and married women should get the same opportunities too.

ciao

I'm a SAHM the majority of the time. My husband works (and I do bits and pieces when I can fit it around our 2.5 year old). We get NO tax credits, NO child benefit and NO housing benefit. We still have bills to pay, like everybody else. Perhaps some humility is in order.

I sincerely hope that a job falls out of the sky and into your lap which pays more than the childcare costs and fits perfectly within your daughter's school hours. It'll probably be delivered by one of those flying pigs.

princessdon

Just wanted to point out to working mothers the following

I worked for at times< £1.50 an hour. NMW is £6.19 - heaven knows what percentage this is under that value, illeagal for sure!

3 years later I am now on a high salary and a high tax payer with minimum childcare. Sometimes you need to look at the longer picture, but each to their own.

neverdespairgirl

midnight_express wrote: »

Birth control is available free for those who can't afford to support themselves and children.

Free for everyone, innit? I've certainly never paid a prescription charge for contraception.

SingleSue

MoreRosey wrote: »

Thanks for your replies.

Are there any mothers in my circumstance?

Re working and affordable childcare - I was except my problem was getting child care due to disabilities. I worked in the evening when my husband was at home (so removed the childcare issue) and took care of the children during the day.

Re extra benefits whilst pregnant - afraid not, at the moment your costs are no higher than they were when you were not pregnant, so additional funds should not be needed. We just re used the equipment from our other children to save costs. For our second son, I was working when I fell pregnant again and they decided that by falling pregnant, I had effectively ended my employment...until it went to tribunal, I could claim no extra at all as my husband was working over 16 hours a week albeit in a low paid job. That meant a loss of around £100 a week in earnings plus I still had to pay for childcare until the notice period for removing a child from their facility had ended.

It was blooming tight in those intervening months but we got through it....I was nearly doo lally by the end though :rotfl:

paddedjohn

Posts like a troll......smells like one too.