Divorce,the house and my money

DKLS

fluffnutter wrote: »

Yeah, 'cos that will be great for the kids won't it.

Getting a solicitor who will help you fight for what's reasonable given your extra input, OP, is one thing. Not making efforts to converse sensibly and amicably with your ex is another thing altogether. You both have to maintain a good relationship for the sake of your children.

It will be great as the mother can secure a roof over the kids heads and a nest egg for the future.
I have seen far too many women get done over by divorce solicitors by "being fair" the husband sounds fairly !!!!less with more of an interest in his new hoochie than the kids.

So yes I stand by what I said. Get a great solicitor and secure that future.

sue_sue_2

Hi all,

thanks for advice, ive had a bettet solicitor recomened so will book an appointment with them. i told him that he should apply but i know if id be waiting a life time.

thanks for advice

balletshoes

sue_sue wrote: »

Hi all,

thanks for advice, ive had a bettet solicitor recomened so will book an appointment with them. i told him that he should apply but i know if id be waiting a life time.

thanks for advice

He's the one who wants to get remarried, so he should be the one to instigate divorce proceedings. Unless theres another reason why you'd prefer to get it started, other than his general apathy towards taking some action for what he wants to do?

NAR

The point is sue_sue it is he that wants the divorce (allegedly) so let him apply and pay for it. Unless you have a reason to be shot of him of course.

elsien

With regards to the children's accounts, it depends how they are set up. A relative had accounts set aside for his children's university fees but because they were in his name as he'd never seen the need to put them in trust, his ex got half for herself as part of the divorce settlement - she knew about the money and that it was earmarked for the kids, but when she left she refused to let it be put in trust for them and it was too late for him to do it on his own. Greedy cow- shows what her priorities were. She'd already had decent enough settlement to buy a new house, but ended up grabbing her children's money as well. Divorce really does bring out the worst in some people.

RAS

sue_sue

he wants the divorce, so he does all the running. Make absolutely sure that you do not agree to a financial settlement with which you are not happy and ensure that it is a clean break settlement. The judge has to OK the settlement, so you need a lawyer who will argue that you get more than 50:50 or get to keep the house until the children leave home and then pay out based on the current equity.

He wants the divorce so you are in a good bargaining position.

princeofpounds

I should add further to my earlier post that the point about getting a good lawyer is not so much to get more than 50/50 (though you can take this approach if you like) but to get the 50/50, or close enough, settlement you are happy with.

I don't believe in either party trying to take the other to the cleaners.

Oh, and I would also not necessarily refuse to take any action over this. If you are the person who builds up savings and he will not, you might want a clean break financial settlement sooner rather than later. Discuss with your lawyer.

Tigsteroonie

For further information about the divorce process and the financial proceedings (the two are legally separate) - and for a very active and informative forum - I can recommend Wikivorce