Divorce :/

marisco_2

Im sorry to hear of your troubles. Going by what you describe of your relationship, you have already tried everything possible to make your marriage work. The realisation that problems cannot be resolved, and that to be happy you and your husband need to part, is clearly a very hard thing for you to accept and come to terms with. This is why you are feeling such mixed emotions and feel sick at the thought of filling the divorce papers out.

I know first hand the pain of getting divorced, it is a devestating feeling. When I filed for divorce I knew that I was making the right decision deep down. That didn't stop it hurting like hell though when the decree nisi and then the decree absolute came through. I wish you all the best OP.

Joons

Listen, we all make mistakes, it's how we learn what is good and bad for us so take it as a life lesson and move on, you are young and have a long life ahead of you, good luck.

onetomany

how come its free hun? i thought they stopped legal aid

zoeholt

onetomany wrote: »

how come its free hun? i thought they stopped legal aid

if i do it undefended, i can get a remission for being on income support, i dont need a solicitor, we know the terms for looking after daughter

Sosdon

All i can say is good luck in the future , a couple of people i know have been divorced , they both got back on track eventually , and are in new relationships.

Dont feel confident enough to comment on the situation , so all i will say is , keep close to your friends and family in this stressful time..

zoeholt

i dont even know how i'm feeling its odd. I feel a bit sad but then part of me doesnt care and just wants it over with, and the other part of me cant believe i have to fill in the forms 3 times!!
He's ignoring me so can't even have a conversation about it.

zaksmum

A close family member divorced her useless scumbag husband (a policeman!!) after he cheated on her and got the other woman pregnant after a few months of marriage. She had just lost her first baby too.

She was gutted at the time but soon met a lovely guy who she's very happy with, and she has a gorgeous little boy with him.

Happy endings do happen, OP, and you're FAR better off without this man by the sound of things.

zoeholt

well I handed the papers in today.

we are being fine with each other, probably being nicer now than we have for ages! Want to be friends for daughters sake.

I dont want to rush back into a court, felt so judged just handing papers in!

Is it going to take a long time?

margaretclare

zoeholt wrote: »

i feel a bit stupid. I have always been too old for my age, and getting married young was a stupid and completely non me thing to do!

I have resigned myself to the rest of my life alone lol and thats whats stopping me

Oh no. Look at it this way: 'Today is the beginning of the rest of your life'.

You're very young. I know what it feels like to have got married too young...but that's another story.

Life has many more options in store for you, and this is not the end. I thought my life was ended when I was widowed, but I fell in love all over again in my 60s! So did the man I'm now happily married to, and he survived not one divorce, but two! He'd understand completely what you say about someone being completely clueless about money - he's been there and got the T-shirt.

Take the next step. I wish you well.

tayforth

Well done, zoeholt.