Panic - Family Wedding abroad!!

Dovah_diva

wannabee_in_credit wrote: »

I agree with the other posters who have said that getting married abroad is a bit selfish

I disagree . I think it is entirely the choice of the happy couple where they marry. It is a really none of anyone else's business. However, they do have to accept that not everyone will want to/be able to attend.

bouncydog1

People should get married where they want to. Perhaps there are other reasons for marrying abroad - elderly parents/ grandparents on the groom's side who cannot travel to UK perhaps? My sister got married in Australia and we had planned to go - however just before paying the final costs etc we found I was expecting so couldn't make the trip.

Solution - a church blessing and reception held at home on return.

FlipFlop23

but its my sister, i really dont want to miss it!

Then also my family dont know about our debt, and im far to embarrassed to admit to it!!

pauletruth

ops sisters reason makes sense. other half comes from there. why not have 2 services one here and one over there. the one here can be a cheapie do. its asking a lot for all her family to go arounf the world. don't feel bad you can't afford it so thats that.

lynz68

I appreciate its a special event you do not want to miss out on. However you have already said you have £30k of debt and you are giving up your job to study. Could you put these plans on hold for a year maybe to even help reduce the debt and maybe save some so you can go to the wedding?

Maybe it's time to be honest about the debt to your family so they realise that you can't really afford it they may be able to help even if its just so you can attend.

Unfortunately the position you're in and the plans that you have I don't see how you can find the money. Personally I think you should be reconsidering the study plan until you are in a better financial position.

sunshineangel

Ok just a couple of ideas hopefully they help sorry if they dont

1 could you use tesco clubcard points towards flights,
2 do surveys to earn money / amazon/ other vouchers/ buy 2nd hand or new from hong kong/china to get outfits/ spending money
3 ebay stuff no longer needed to help fund going/outfits etc

you have prob thought of them anyway but thought id suggest. Hope you can find a solution x

debtfree*wannabee*

My sister chose to get married in St Lucia 17 years ago and we had to accept that we wouldn't be able to be there for her but it was her choice. In the end my brother went and represented our family.

She had a party before she went for all the relatives and that was that. I would love to have been there but it was not possible for various reasons.

If you can tell your family about your situation, I would. They will understand and support you and it will take the pressure off you with regards to family events. Mine do.

Take care.

Dovah_diva

FlipFlop23 wrote: »

but its my sister, i really dont want to miss it!

*Shrugs* But you have no money. Worse, you owe a colossal amount of money - and you're planning on reducing your income even further. I reiterate - you can't afford it. Stamping your foot will make no difference. I had to miss my sister's wedding - I survived.

All you need to decide is what you are going to tell your family. Personally, I'd opt for the truth. There are millions of people in debt - it is nothing to be ashamed of. If, however, you got even more debt for a wedding you'd be extremely foolish.

I also think the study plans should be shelved. You can't afford to attend your sister's wedding and you certainly can't afford to incur yet more debt following your dream of being a student. You have too much debt.

ntb1

We had the same with my brother was marrying an American. We couldn't afford to go neither could my sisters. They decided to get married in Ireland instead.

I think you have to be honest and say you can't afford to go. You'd be mad to take on all that extra debt and I know it's your sister.

ellesbellesxxx

If you literally do not have the money, then how can you go?
We thought about getting married abroad, having a small family wedding in Iceland, but then considered the fact that only probably our parents and my brother would be able to make it - no one else, so then we shelved that idea completely!!!! Surely your sis will understand that with that kind of notice, it is out of the qu?
If you take on another 1000-2000 debt you will regret it when you look back...as you will have to be cutting back severely to pay it back.
Good luck!!!