How do I manage to bring out the worst in people everytime?

carefullycautious

I beg to differ about it getting better. I work in a team of woman and the playground stuff is alive and kicking. I think you just learn to let it go over your head and give praise that you don't have to mix with these people out of work.

If I took offence at all the digs I get I would never get out of bed in the morning.

I have utmost respect for you as you sound much older than 14 and the fact that you are aware of what people are doing will help you.

Think of it like a bee sting it hurts for a little bit but soon wears off. Surround yourself with friends who do not feel the need to do this and accept you for yourself.

gwen80

My other tip Tally is to ask them to repeat it. So someone makes a fleeting comment like, just say 'Pardon?' or 'Sorry I missed that' innocently as if you hadn't heard it (obviously you have), but people tend not to be keen to repeat their nasty comments as it calls them out on it.

ljw2701

Has "Teen Princess Talia" returned?

Netwizard

carefullycautious wrote: »

I beg to differ about it getting better. I work in a team of woman and the playground stuff is alive and kicking. I think you just learn to let it go over your head and give praise that you don't have to mix with these people out of work.

I have utmost respect for you as you sound much older than 14 and the fact that you are aware of what people are doing will help you.

Think of it like a bee sting it hurts for a little bit but soon wears off. Surround yourself with friends who do not feel the need to do this and accept you for yourself.

I agree with this. At work there is a team of about 14 of us, only 2 of us (me included) are male.
The !!!!!ing, gossiping, back stabbing etc that goes on is just unbelievable. Its hard to think these people range from 18 to 40 odd.

14 is a sensitive age and you will probably take things to heart, but as others have said, you sound very mature for your age, so if you can, let it go over your head, ignore it, no matter how hard it is.

When your "friends" can see it no longer bothers you and your being the better and more mature person by ignoring them, they will probably move onto some other poor girl.

I was bullied pretty much every day at school. These people are sad sad individuals who have nothing better to do than try and make other peoples life a misery, but what doesnt kill you only makes you stronger. Hold your head up high knowing your better than these low lifes :T

ostrichnomore_2

Oh OP my heart goes out to you. Teenage girls are awful to each other. Yes, some do carry it on into adulthood, but the majority grow out of it, so things will get better and you won't always get this reaction from people. It's not you at all, it's them, I promise.

I couldn't wait to get out of school and never saw any of them again, even my 'friends'.

What kept me sane through it all was having a group of friends outside of school. Somehow you don't seem to get the same pettiness out of that environment. Try and find another social circle to be with, mine was through a hobby, to keep some perspective on things.

I wouldn't be 14 again if you paid me a million pounds. Chin up. It doesn't last.

Rottensocks

ostrichnomore wrote: »

I wouldn't be 14 again if you paid me a million pounds. Chin up. It doesn't last.

Same here! Girls especially can be total biaatches at that age (and as pointed out, some never grow out of it, although most do!)

thehappybutterfly

ljw2701 wrote: »

Has "Teen Princess Talia" returned?

I don't get this? :huh:

BitterAndTwisted

Tally...x wrote: »

I don't know what to do I'm fed up of having to ignore it all the time.

Well, bloody-well don't!

Repeating the same behaviour over and over again but expecting a different outcome isn't sensible. If you think people are intentionally being unkind or unhelpful, challenge them.

Walkovers don't get bullied as often as the assertive.

ljw2701

thehappybutterfly wrote: »

I don't get this? :huh:

Sorry, don't know how to post a link but this thread reminded me of one from a couple of years ago - started by a user called Teen Princess Talia and all about teenage problems! Apologies if I'm way off track........:o

gibson123

Most 14 year old girls, even the nice sweet ones are b*****s. i know my daughter is 14, she is lovely, she has lovely friends, they are all incredibily sweet and then its like the b***h emerges for no reason. They even shock themselves, i think it is programmed as part of the human growth cycle.

On another note, some women and men never get over being 14 and take it into their adult life, we have a 50 something 14 year old in our office, our apprentice acts more mature and she is only 17!